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Custody Issues / Custody change
Apr 04, 2006, 10:58:15 AM
If the parent's both decide on changing custody from sole physical to joint physical - how do they go about doing in a cost effective way. Both have decided that since they arrangment is pretty much joint physical without the wording with the court system that they want to change it so that it is official. Is this possible or not.
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Custody Issues / Custody - very long
Feb 07, 2006, 10:54:52 AM
Long story - new to forum as well.
2000 my husband at time and I decided to get divorced. Our daughter was 2.5 at time. 3 at the actual divorce date. I was young and dumb. He said he would have custody until my student loans were paid off - giving her stability and once paid off she could live with me...I was only making 24k at the time and needed part time job to pay a portion of the loan bill....okay so couple years later - debt is wiped clean. My roommate went her way and I went mine. I moved back in with him and my daughter - until I fiqured out where to live. She was 5 at the time. Started Kindegarten. I got engaged to someone else and when custody was brought up - he said he only said that because he never thought I would pay the student loans off. Boy was I dumb to ever believe him...but back then he said he would not take her away from her mother. HA HA HA... SO I moved out and got married. I have her every weekend and also during summer months. I also have a son with my husband. So my daughter has a brother she sees on weekends and summer months. He is 7 months, and she is now 7 going to be 8 and in 2nd grade. He is not married. Lives in a duplex with relatives living below. He is a good father BUT - he does have a past. 3rd degree sexual assault charge. He was of age and the girl was not - he did not know that she was a minor and then she accused him of rape. So they went to court - way before I knew him..1996 or so. I think by now the issue was expunged - maybe not. But at the time I think it was a felony charge. So you are probably wondering why do I care now....well being young I just didn't think about it. Now I want to play dirty to get her back. That's mean too and it makes me feel bad because he is a nice person kind of...Lately I have been trying to get him to change his mind but he won't budge. Claims someone has to be the loser and the loser is me. We are both college educated and my daughter happens to be a gifted student. He is so tough on her and I feel that her emotional needs as a female are not being met. He does not understand that concept and disagrees. Oh...this is also disturbing. After her showers he would dry her off and then lotion her up. When I was told this by my daughter - I threw a fit and told him that whole shower/lotion thing was disturbing and it better stop and he did. But anyway. I want my daughter. Any thoughts.... I do live about 2 hours away as well...and plan on staying at home with my son in the next few months running a daycare business. My daughter would not have to be taken care of my ex's relatives in the am or pm.
Thank you. Please don't judge either. I made a bad call and unfort. don't know how to fix the issue.
2000 my husband at time and I decided to get divorced. Our daughter was 2.5 at time. 3 at the actual divorce date. I was young and dumb. He said he would have custody until my student loans were paid off - giving her stability and once paid off she could live with me...I was only making 24k at the time and needed part time job to pay a portion of the loan bill....okay so couple years later - debt is wiped clean. My roommate went her way and I went mine. I moved back in with him and my daughter - until I fiqured out where to live. She was 5 at the time. Started Kindegarten. I got engaged to someone else and when custody was brought up - he said he only said that because he never thought I would pay the student loans off. Boy was I dumb to ever believe him...but back then he said he would not take her away from her mother. HA HA HA... SO I moved out and got married. I have her every weekend and also during summer months. I also have a son with my husband. So my daughter has a brother she sees on weekends and summer months. He is 7 months, and she is now 7 going to be 8 and in 2nd grade. He is not married. Lives in a duplex with relatives living below. He is a good father BUT - he does have a past. 3rd degree sexual assault charge. He was of age and the girl was not - he did not know that she was a minor and then she accused him of rape. So they went to court - way before I knew him..1996 or so. I think by now the issue was expunged - maybe not. But at the time I think it was a felony charge. So you are probably wondering why do I care now....well being young I just didn't think about it. Now I want to play dirty to get her back. That's mean too and it makes me feel bad because he is a nice person kind of...Lately I have been trying to get him to change his mind but he won't budge. Claims someone has to be the loser and the loser is me. We are both college educated and my daughter happens to be a gifted student. He is so tough on her and I feel that her emotional needs as a female are not being met. He does not understand that concept and disagrees. Oh...this is also disturbing. After her showers he would dry her off and then lotion her up. When I was told this by my daughter - I threw a fit and told him that whole shower/lotion thing was disturbing and it better stop and he did. But anyway. I want my daughter. Any thoughts.... I do live about 2 hours away as well...and plan on staying at home with my son in the next few months running a daycare business. My daughter would not have to be taken care of my ex's relatives in the am or pm.
Thank you. Please don't judge either. I made a bad call and unfort. don't know how to fix the issue.
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