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My X also does this.  One time when I wasn't supposed to be seeing my daughter, because X was mad at me, I brought her home from my parents house.  She said I will just tell mom that G & G brought me home and you were just making sure that I got in the house OK.  I said no, we aren't going to lie, tell her that I came to see you and brought you home.  She said, but mom will be mad.  I sad then let her be mad at me, it's not your fault.  But we are not going to lie.
She was 5 at the time.


"Teach your children to lie for you and you are teaching them to lie to you."  unknown author

This sounds like my ex.  Not all of your problem applies, but this exert certianly does.
I'm just looking into trying to get custody.  We were never married and have no court ordered custody.  I'm not as active as I should be because she does everything she can to block me.  She won't answer the phone, tells my daughter I don't care, ignores my messages, changes plans at the last minute, etc.  So I feel what you are going through.  I do live a lot closer though.
In a lot of states, including IA, you can record phone conversations if one party knows.


Good luck!