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I cant move closer to her. I just got drafted for baseball and that is taking me further away from my baby. It is a once in a lifetime opprotunity. I have my foot in the door to make it to the major leagues and if I do I can give my daughter everything I never had. I would love to live closer to her, or have her live with me but I am stuck in a hard place.

I contacted an attorney and he said the same thing that the first thing to do is establish paternity. So that is my first step, but I really cant afford to pay countless attorney fees if she wants to drag this out. I can afford this if she would agree to terms but I dont think that will happen. Where do i go if she wont go to reasonable terms which I think is what will happen.

Thank you and I really appreciate the advice and your story. I am 22 and very new at this whole thing. I want to see my daughter but I just cant go to another state all of the time and so its hard being away and not knowing how she is doing or getting any photos to see how she is changing. I got drafted for baseball and that will take up about six months out of my year that I will be even farther away. I would love to be able to have her for a little while during this time and my fiance has alot of baby experience and could watch her during my games and of course I would take care of her before and after. I cant stand to think that when I leave for spring training I may not hear anything or be able to see her at all for six months. This is my first child and I never thought my ex would turn out to be this cruel and hurtful.    

    I am Senior in College and I dated a girl for about seven months. Since I was a Junior and she was a Freshman I didnt want any children yet. She lied about being on birth control and told me she was pregnant when she was 24 weeks along (about two months after we had broke up). My ex wanted me to give her money for an abortion. I told her that I wouldnt and that she should give birth and either keep the baby or let me have it either way I would be supportive. She continued to drink heavily, not attend doctors appointments and not take any vitamins.                                                                                                 After the baby was born it stopped breathing three times and had to be recessitated. She decided that she wanted the baby and wouldnt let me have her. We agreed that we didnt want to go through a court battle and would work visitation and everthing out between us. Now that my baby is a month old she wont let me see her, wont e-mail me any more pictures and has pretty much cut all ties between me and my baby. I love my daughter and want as much as a relationship with her as much as possible but my ex keeps telling me I have no rights to her since in the state of Georgia fathers that have a baby out of weddlock have no rights until it is taken to court.
     I am leaving for spring training for baseball since I just got drafted so I know I cant fight for sole custody since I dont have enought time to give to a new born. I dont think however that my ex is fully capable of taking care of my baby because of her mental state the last few months eventhough she is going through therapy. I also dont think that my ex is being completely honest about my babys medical problems. I am going to get an attorney but this all confuses me. I dont know where to start and I hope someone can shed light on what kind of visitation and rights I should be asking for. Thank you and please help