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So basically if we put in our agreement that we will remain in the marital home together indefinitely(yeah right), remain with joint custody, and make no interuption to the current financial support of our children the judge cannot intervene with court orders of custody or CS?

I know I read somewhere that the judicial system cannot impose any CS or award custody if parents make their own arrangements via mediation, they would have to find it in the best intrest of the child(ren) that they intervene. If a decision is made based on this reason the decision can be appealed and court would have to prove why it was in the best intrest of the child to mandate CS or award custody.

What if me and my wife agree to stay in the marital home(together) for 5yrs then sell. niether requesting CS. Will court impose CS order anyway even though we say no?

Who is awarded primary residential in a case like this?

Need more info let me know.

She wanted out for years, but I kept trying to make it work. Finally couldnt take the abuse(boyfriend in the pic of course) or put my kids thru the arguing and fighting anymore  so I agreed on my terms....

petition drew up said I keep kids 4 nights she 3nights, I keep the house and she moves out in a year, I am primary residental parent, and no alimony niether of us asking for CS.  

Got the court date two months later judge asked if we agreed to terms she said no. so we sat with a mediator......needless to say the pressure from him and her got to me and I signed my life away.

Got home and actually read the new agreement, She keeps the house I pay 1800 in CS, I get kids every other weekend from friday night to be home by 6pm sun, and whenever she had evening work or school which added up to me having the 12% of the time, which in reality would never go down like that. I have to be out in 30 days.

Next day I filed a motion for that agreement to be tossed!! Judge granted, now we are scheduled for mediation again this thurs I know she wont budge.

Of course there are underlying situations that may have caused her to change her mind from the initial arrangement ie; my newly found love intrest, she was fine knowing I was miserable without her and now that I have moved on she wants to make me suffer.

She's always had a job now she wont work, she said she doesnt feel like it. She feels she is intitled to keep the house and want primary custody of the kids so she can recieve CS. She wants me out I'm sure so her boyfriend can move in.

Seeing that the we the men always get the short end, I'm not there yet Any advice to help me?