I am 34 years old and am on parole. I have three children- a son who is 17, a daughter who is 15, and a daughter who is almost ten months (different mothers). I pay child support for my children. I do not use drugs. I am gainfully employed, and am a productive member of society. I am a manager at my place of business.
My youngest daughter was born July 9, 2005. Her mother and I have been separated since January, 2005 due to irreconcilable differences.
On October 3, 2005 I attended a child-support hearing at which I was ordered to pay $258 per month. Prior to that time, I gave my ex money EVERY time that she requested assistance with items for the baby. The total of this assistance was over $1000.
I was granted supervised visitation with either my ex or her mother, at her mother's house. However, whenever my ex had plans or had to work an unscheduled shift (working in the city where I reside), she would call at the last minute (while I was at work, usually) asking me to watch my daughter at her mother's house (two hours from where I reside). If I could not comply with her request as specified, she would inevitably say that I didn't take the initiative to see my daughter when given the opportunity to do so. She also uses my parole status to threaten that she will not have any problem taking away all visitation rights.
I have seen my daughter a total of 7 times. Four of these visits were held in my ex's mother's home. The other three have been in the city where I reside. Two of these were overnight visits. The last time I saw my daughter for more than 30 minutes was the day after Thanksgiving, 2005.
During the fall, my ex was working overtime in attempt to secure an apartment for her and her 3 children (in the city where I reside) and had placed our daughter "temporarily" with her aunt three hours away. Her other two children remained with her mother and sister while she worked here.
I made arrangements with my ex to see my daughter for the day on February 19, 2006. On the evening of February 18, she was robbed and shot and has since been in the hospital (in the city where I reside). I saw my daughter once during a hospital visit for approximately 30 minutes (when my ex's aunt brought my daughter to visit her mother). Last week my ex was finally released to a hospital closer to her mother's home.
The doctors have said that she will be disabled for a minimum of one year. During this time, she plans to leave my daughter with her aunt. I have made attempts to see my daughter since she has been with my ex's aunt and have been met with lack of cooperation and communication. In addition, my own financial hardship prevents me from making this trip on a regular basis.
I am not seeking full custody of my daughter. However, I am unwilling to pay child support and continue to be denied my rights to see my daughter. If seeking full custody is my only recourse and remedy for the situation, I will not hesitate to do so.
Any guidance or assistance that can be offered regarding my situation would be greatly appreciated. I just want to see my little girl again...
My youngest daughter was born July 9, 2005. Her mother and I have been separated since January, 2005 due to irreconcilable differences.
On October 3, 2005 I attended a child-support hearing at which I was ordered to pay $258 per month. Prior to that time, I gave my ex money EVERY time that she requested assistance with items for the baby. The total of this assistance was over $1000.
I was granted supervised visitation with either my ex or her mother, at her mother's house. However, whenever my ex had plans or had to work an unscheduled shift (working in the city where I reside), she would call at the last minute (while I was at work, usually) asking me to watch my daughter at her mother's house (two hours from where I reside). If I could not comply with her request as specified, she would inevitably say that I didn't take the initiative to see my daughter when given the opportunity to do so. She also uses my parole status to threaten that she will not have any problem taking away all visitation rights.
I have seen my daughter a total of 7 times. Four of these visits were held in my ex's mother's home. The other three have been in the city where I reside. Two of these were overnight visits. The last time I saw my daughter for more than 30 minutes was the day after Thanksgiving, 2005.
During the fall, my ex was working overtime in attempt to secure an apartment for her and her 3 children (in the city where I reside) and had placed our daughter "temporarily" with her aunt three hours away. Her other two children remained with her mother and sister while she worked here.
I made arrangements with my ex to see my daughter for the day on February 19, 2006. On the evening of February 18, she was robbed and shot and has since been in the hospital (in the city where I reside). I saw my daughter once during a hospital visit for approximately 30 minutes (when my ex's aunt brought my daughter to visit her mother). Last week my ex was finally released to a hospital closer to her mother's home.
The doctors have said that she will be disabled for a minimum of one year. During this time, she plans to leave my daughter with her aunt. I have made attempts to see my daughter since she has been with my ex's aunt and have been met with lack of cooperation and communication. In addition, my own financial hardship prevents me from making this trip on a regular basis.
I am not seeking full custody of my daughter. However, I am unwilling to pay child support and continue to be denied my rights to see my daughter. If seeking full custody is my only recourse and remedy for the situation, I will not hesitate to do so.
Any guidance or assistance that can be offered regarding my situation would be greatly appreciated. I just want to see my little girl again...