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Thanks ref.
I have documented every time I have had him over the past 2 years. Wouldent the adoption be counted as I now have another child to support as well.
I want to be certain that things will change if I go through with this. Id rather be spending the money on my son than giving it to the BM as I know its not getting spent on him, especially when he is with me half of the year.

Hi Everyone

For the past two years I have documentation that I have had my son for 6 months of  each year. I pay child support every month (12 months of the year) also my own curcumstances have changed within the past two years, Im now married, I pay for my sons health insurance, and im in the middle of adopting my step-son. I pay for half my sons clothes and school supplies which I have recipts for.

What I am asking is do i have any sort of case here to get child support reduced as I do  have my son 6 months of the year and i still have to pay her even when he is with me.

Many thanks to all who respond.

Dear Soc

I have emailed you a letter asking for some advice, I hope to hear from you soon. Many thanks.

Yes he can talk some what though skills are very mimimum. He does relate to pictures better but when asked by my wife in a non probing way ie...... was someone mad at you....yes...... was it daddy.......NO......was it mommy......yes......did you get smacked.....yes.......who smacked you.....mommy........did she smack you with her hand.........NO PADDLE

But because when the social worker came he didnt know this person he wouldent talk nothing was done as he couldent tell her what happened. Iv called everyone and I cant get a child advocate privetly and they wont appoint him one because at the Directors of social services desgression he sent him back to the mothers home.

Iv called our local councilor to see if they could help me and they said it was out of there duristiction.

I just dont understand how a social worker could have seen the paddle in the mothers house with my sons name on it and the locks on the outside of his door where she locks him in and he has to soil himself at night and in less than 24hrs they put him back into that situation without even an investigation into anything. It just seems as if the mother knows or has had some other communication with this director in the past as things are to cut and dry for me. Iv spent the past week trying to get the report that was done on this case and im getting totally railroaded all the time as if im the bad guy in all this. So iv now put it in writing and registered the letter to see if that helps me get it.
I just feel like im hitting a brickwall no matter which way I turn surley there has to be someone out there that can help me.
many thanks.

Thanks for everything soc going down the therapist road is the only way im going to get some justice here. As for now it is the mothers word against my silenced sons, And it seems like the social work department is falling for the poor mother syndrom in which she is very good at.

Ill get in contact with a therapist A.S.A.P

thanks soc for your input

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Thats exactly what I have been thinking to, non of this makes any sence to me as to why they would do this.

I have one other question, as I have explained to you my son is autistic what would your advise be in introducing a therapist to this situation to see if they could talk to him on his leval and get some information from him.

If so where would I start to find someone like this? And do I have to inform his mother that I am doing this?

Hi

I recieved my 10 year old autistic son last weekend 14th April  for visitation and noticed severe bruising to his leg and backside. I took him to the hospital where a doctor examined him and a social worker asked questions and took pictures.

I live in Ohio, child resides with mother in Indiana, Social worker at hospital contacted Indiana social worker where an investigation was to be made.

Indiana social worker called me on Sat night and said she had called at the mothers house where she had seen the paddle with my sons name on it that she had paddled him with and the locks on the outside of his bedroom door where she locks him in at night and he is forced to soil on himself.

Sunday 16th April Indiana social  worker paid me a visit at my home and said the child would be in my custody till the case was looked at and all actions taken, but my wife and myself needed to get routine fingerprinting on the Monday morn which was fine.

We dropped my son off at school and was in social workers office by 10.30am where upon we were told by the directors descression that my son was to go back into the mothers home that day.

1. No explanation was given to me as to why this desission was made so quickly

2. Social workers are now ignoring all my telephone calls and refuse to give me any information regarding my son ( we have joint custody of him)I have put it in writing to them to release records

3. I am in fear for my sons safety as he hasent the mental capability to call me if he is in any danger.

4. I have documented proof that the child has been with me for 6 months of the year for the past 2 years but i pay child support to the mother all year and she also recieves disability allowance all year for the child.

5. iv even called my local counsiler to see if they can help me and was told its not in there duristican

6. Just because my son can be interviewed and tell them outright who did this to him he shouldent be treated with less rights than a typical child.


7. My lawyer can see me till next Friday im going out my mind with worry and dont know where or who to turn to next for help.

Hi again everyone
my son resides with his BM in another state from me though I do have him 6 months of the year for the past two years. We have joint custody of him. Can I legaly take him to a doctor in my state, without have to get prior permission from BM, I had no say in the Dr that she takes him to and dont agree with most that I hear from them, so would like to get a second opinion of my own for him, he has autism and I dont believe everything the BM is telling to Drs to be true and correct. Any help would be much obliged, thanks.

Thanks everyone for replying

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