Messages

I have tried talking to my Mom.  I don't think she really beieves that I am going through it.  I have explained to her that by doing it this way we both save money.  (I am paying for my side of the legal even though my Dad offered)  She doesn't care.  

I want to go ahead and file to make it legal.  But I also want to start living with my Dad now!  I am thinking about doing both.

Thank you for your thoughts!

So even if my mom doesn't sign the new agreement, I can live wit my dad?

I don't want to get my dad in trouble though.  She is blaming him and saying she'll file contempt charges or something against him.

Can she do that?

  sorry - forgot to say I'm in Alabama (nm)

Right now my Dad's custody agreement is 50/50. We stay Fri till Fri at Dad's and then Mom's the next week. This has worked great because both parties live close enough to one another to make this work. And usually if anthing comes up swapping time hasn't been too big of a deal.

Last Oct. I started having problems with some of the people I thought were my friends at school.  I decided I wanted to go to the school closer to momDad's and he finally said yes at the end of the first semister so I started my secound semister there.  My Mom got mad at me and told me that if I wanted to go to that school then I would have to live with my Dad.

Which is what I did, and I haves loved it!  Summer came and I started staying with my Mom  EveryOther week again but I told her that I wanted to live with my Dad when school starts back
Now Mom doesn't want to sign any papers.

I am the one that went to the lawyer to draw up the papers. I have set down with my Mom to try and make her understand and she doesn't want to listen.  She says that if she signs my Dad will try to change cihld support, even though he promised me he wouldn't and I believe him.

I really don't want to have to go to court over this but I have already told my Mom that I have saved enough money to do that if I have to.  She believes that my Dad and SM are behind this and not me.


#1 -   I'm 17 (9 months til 18) is there anything she can really do to keep me from living with my dad?

#2  -  What if I do it anyway?  What can happen?

Thank you for your help!

Hi.  I am the SM of two pretty good kids.  My SD is 17 and my SS is 13.  

Right now my DH's custody agreement is 50/50.  We have both kids Fri till Fri and the BM the next week.  This has worked great because both parties live close enough to one another to make this work.  And usually if anthing comes up swapping time hasn't been too big of a deal.

Last Oct. My SD asked to switch schools to the high school closer to us. (Still only 20 mins tops from her BM's)  We weren't sure because she was doing it to get away from some of her so called friends.  Anyway we made her wait until the end of the first semister before we okayed it.  Her BM got mad at her and told her that if she wanted to go to that school then she would have to live with us.  
Which is what happened, and SD has loved it!  (Which is hard to believe because we are a lot stricter than BM) Summer came and SD started staying with BM EOweek again but told her she wanted to be here for school.
Now BM doesn't want to sign any papers.
SD is really upset.  She is the one that went to the lawyer to draw up the papers.  She has set done with BM to talk about it and BM will have nothing to do with it.  SD has even told her that she'll take her to court if she has to.

My question is - SD is 17 (9 months til 18)  is there anything BM can really do to keep her from staying here if she really wants to?
I know that if DH or I interfere with visitation we can be held in contempt.  But if SD does it herself what can BM do?
Is there anything else we can do to help get this passed for SD?

We are in Alabama.