I was refered to this website and hope someone can help..
Divorced in 2001, and my children have not been back to Ex's house since. The reason for this is his house is completely filled with mold. (basement, walls, the roof has holes in it and part of the ceiling has collapsed in, so you can only imagine how much is up in the attic space now) and if he has seen the children, it is either when he drops by for a 1/2 hour or so, or here and there he *might* take them to lunch or such.
He has told the children that starting here soon, when he gets them new beds, they can start coming over to spend time there with him. I am really concerned about this. I have 2 children that have an extreme allergy to mold, (one is so bad he requires a breathing machine if he's around it more that a few minutes, the other requires an inhaler if she's around it at all). I did contact an attorney about this and during my free consultation was told I can legally keep them from going over till the entire house is cleaned and it is documented by an outside source (not just him stating it's done), citing that it would put our children in "emanate danger for their health" for them to go over. I can not afford the attorney fees for them to do the letter themselves, and they said I could do it myself.
Question (finally), does anyone have any advice on how to word this letter? I have sat here for 2 hours and can not come up with anything that sounds right. I don't want it to be a threatening one, just let him know I am serious about my children not being in that type of environment, and that he can still see the children, just not at his house. Any ideas?
Divorced in 2001, and my children have not been back to Ex's house since. The reason for this is his house is completely filled with mold. (basement, walls, the roof has holes in it and part of the ceiling has collapsed in, so you can only imagine how much is up in the attic space now) and if he has seen the children, it is either when he drops by for a 1/2 hour or so, or here and there he *might* take them to lunch or such.
He has told the children that starting here soon, when he gets them new beds, they can start coming over to spend time there with him. I am really concerned about this. I have 2 children that have an extreme allergy to mold, (one is so bad he requires a breathing machine if he's around it more that a few minutes, the other requires an inhaler if she's around it at all). I did contact an attorney about this and during my free consultation was told I can legally keep them from going over till the entire house is cleaned and it is documented by an outside source (not just him stating it's done), citing that it would put our children in "emanate danger for their health" for them to go over. I can not afford the attorney fees for them to do the letter themselves, and they said I could do it myself.
Question (finally), does anyone have any advice on how to word this letter? I have sat here for 2 hours and can not come up with anything that sounds right. I don't want it to be a threatening one, just let him know I am serious about my children not being in that type of environment, and that he can still see the children, just not at his house. Any ideas?