what i have done is kep all my phone records of every time i have called or received a call from my son. at one point from september to january i didnt even talk to him or even know how he was doing because she never answered the phone. i am taking the right steps to show lack of cooperation and i thank each and every one of your comments and suggestions. what i am going to do is fly up there on june 1st. go to the local police station before i try to pick him up and then go and try. if she is not there or refuses then i will call the cops if the cops didnt come with me to begin with.