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#1
Custody Issues / RE: Mediation of Conflicts
Jun 01, 2006, 07:06:12 PM
The "unorthodox" visitation is as follows: My son spends 1 full week with me and then 1 full week with his mom. Basically, he sees each of us the same amount of time. As I stated earlier, This was done so he could have a relationship with both of us.

It is joint legal custody, with me as the "Custodial Parent". I have physical custody of my son also.

He has not gone to school in my district because originally he was going to private school. That got too expensive and the public school in my district at the time was terrible. My new wife is a school teacher and my son was allowed to go to the same school she taught at because he lived with us. My ex lives 5 minutes from the school so it was convenient for her when he spent the week at her house.

Because of the medical issues this past year with my son, he thinks the kids at his current school all hate him and he wants to change schools. He told his therapist that he wants to go to the school in my district because he has friends in my neighborhood that he would go to school with. My wife will probably not go back to teaching at the current school also, which means we could no longer be the exception at that school.

We have moved to a much better school district now. The fact that we are 32 miles away from my ex does not make her happy.

Living with me full time is only an issue because my ex does not want me to "win". I have told her it is not about me or her winning. It is about our son getting what is best.

As for your other comments, I never discuss things with him or around him. I never question what is going on at mom's house. I have always left him out of the "adult" conversations.

Hopefully this helps explains things better. Sorry for being so wordy. Thanks for your input.
#2
Custody Issues / Mediation of Conflicts
May 31, 2006, 10:08:39 PM
I am a father of a 10-year old boy and have been divorced for 8 yrs from his mother. I am since remarried with another son (21 months) and a girl on the way. In the divorce decree, I was named the "Custodial Parent".  I wanted to be sure my son still had a relationship with his mother, so I agreed to rather unorthodox visitation. This visitation was never put in writing and was not part of the divorce decree. Now, my son has been diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and is taking medication. We are also in the midst of researching and speaking with his therapist about the possibility of him having Aspberger's Disorder. Basically, he needs to change schools for the 2006-2007 school year and his mom is fighting me tooth and nail. I only want what is best for my son. His therapist believes he is better with me. My son wants to live with me full time and go to school by my house. (Just so you know, I live 32 miles away from my ex-wife. Not like we're in another state.) I spoke to the attorney that handled our divorce and he stated that the issue of WHERE my son goes to school does not qualify for mediation. I need help. I believe, and I am not an attorney, that my ex-wife would need to have a judge/court change the "Custodial Parent" role before she can dictate to me where he goes to school. In order for that to happen, she would have to prove that I am an unfit parent. Is this correct? If anyone can assist me with this, I would GREATLY appreciate it. The school year is ending this week and we need to enroll my son for next year very soon.

Thank you.