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Sounds like everyone has some good advice.  I cannot put myself in his situation.  I can only imagine how it would feel to have my Dad relinquish his rights to me.  However, at the same time my boyfriend has this theory that if he steps away, that in time his son will realize the reality of the situation and want a relationship.  I have told him that I would be more than happy to help him gather the documents that he needs to put an end to this.  In fact, after reading peoples' advice yesterday, we had a discussion.  He said that from the start, he never had a lawyer.  He doesn't even know what kind of custody he has.  His ex and him ended things on a good note together, and, at the time, he trusted her to make the right decisions for his son.  Obviously, he was wrong!  I'm not sure how he could find out what his custodial rights are.  Does anybody know???  I guess this would be the first step in finding out what his rights actually are.  This is a very painful situation for all involved, my boyfriend is not being selfish - he just wants to do what is right and most healthy for his son.  Thanks!

My boyfriend is divorced (over 4 years ago) and has a 7 year old son as a result of the marriage.  Shortly after the divorce, his exwife moved 8 hours away and took their son.  I believe that she thought that my boyfriend would follow her out there and that they would reconcile.  However, that did not happen.  My boyfriend does not have a lot of money, however, he does work and pays child support directly out of his check.  When they first moved away, she would allow her son to talk to his Dad on the phone.  At one point they were supposed to come and visit, however, the week before they cancelled the trip.  My boyfriend was heartbroken.  Since then (that was back in November) the phone calls have dwindled.  It is at the point, where my boyfriend calls his son and never gets a call back.  They haven't spoken in months.  He called his son on his birthday, (in May) never got a call back.  He did not even receive a call on Father's Day!  I have no idea how to help my boyfriend deal with this.  He HATES to talk about it and he is obviously depressed.  He is thinking about giving up rights to his son.  Is she legally able to prevent their son from speaking to his father??  I mean, he pays child support (24% of his paycheck) every month!  Somebody please offer me some advice on how to deal w/ this.  I have his ex's e-mail address was thinking about contacting her, but I know that my boyfriend would be so angry w/ me if he ever found out.  I just really do not know what else to do!  Please help!