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Hello everyone.  Hoping someone can help me or guide me in the right direction.

I've been divorced for the past 8 or so years.  Live in Ontario, Canada.  My problem right now is that my custodial ex is denying we ever set up a RESP (Registered Education Savings Plan) for our children.  

How do I go about finding out what happened to it?  I am 100% positive that we did set it up years ago with a certain bank but she is denying this.  

Do I need a lawyer to find out this information or can I check into it myself?

Please advise and thank you so much!

Hi there,

Hoping someone may know the answer to this question.

I am the partner of non-custodial BF in this situation - and would like to know when they are corresponding to each other for requests ie:  providing financial information, changing visitation weekends etc. - all their Separation Agreement says is "written request"..  Does this mean actual written letter put in the mail with a post mark or does it mean emailed correspondence?

For the financial information, we believe it to be written request - on a letter - with a postmark and mailed.  The postmark would be our proof.  Especially for the financial information as it can only be requested once per calendar year.  

For the actual changing of weekends - we can understand and accept emailed correspondence as BM changes things on just about every visit with the kids during their visits with their BF.

Does anyone know?  Please advise and thank you in advance...  :)

**  The financial information I am now looking into for him is that his DD is wanting to enroll in Dance as an extra-curricular activity.  We are asking the BM to provide her financial info to look into a proper split of these costs.  Actually, doing a quick google search we see that new laws suggest that a $350.00 charge for this cost would be covered under his child support payments and not considered as an extra-ordinary expense.  Don't know if this is or isn't the case - (comments would be appreciated) - but we are going to pass this along to his lawyer to see if this is infact the case.

Thanks so much to all for your comments and help!  :)

Sorry for the delay, we went away for a couple of days on a much needed mini-vacation.

We did end up giving her the bike to take home - DF drove it home for her last Sunday evening..  DF's daughter was not in the least appreciative...  :(  It's been a really bad divorce (and she's in the teen years) that sadly has affected everyone..  no matter what though, on our side we try our best to deal with the 2 girls the best we can and have come to the realization that we have sadly no control over what poison their BM feeds them.  :(

I'm divorced myself (10 years now) and mine was nothing like his.  Mine was long overdue and we both now have a clean break that thankfully we have both moved on from and our one and only daughter (now 22) was always kept out of parental issues.  Can't say the same for his - but I try to support him the best that I can and am very aware of my place in all of this.  

This forum has been quite helpful in getting many answers for me and I hope everyone makes it through fine.

Take care and thanks again!!  :)

>How far away does she live? We kept the bikes at our house
>too because it is a pain to bring back and forth. Can you find
>one at a garage sale for BM's house or wait one to go on sale
>and have her use her money to buy one (chores?). If you use it
>a lot on your weekends, I would keep it by you, if not send it
>with her home. Like you said, pick your battles....


They live approx. 60 KMs away.  Agreed it was a pain to bring them back and forth which is why we went out and bought them in the first place.  Not sure what "BM" stands for as I am just new to this forum..  His daughter did want this bike so bad for this place - he paid 1/2 and she paid 1/2 with $$ received from my fiances parents (her grandparents)...  more than anything is the fact that her mother is saying this is her bike and she is the one refusing to buy her a new one...  pick and choose the battles...  poor kids always get stuck in the middle...  I'm more on the side of just giving her the bike to take home...  her visits are getting few and far between due to her age, friends, school commitments and part time job...   Best just to give it to her to take home.  Thank you for your feedback.  I really appreciate it.  Take care.

Hello everyone!  Just found your site today and we have an issue that has now come up twice.

My fiance is the father of 2 girls - 15 & 10.  We purchased them each a bike for them to use on their visits with us.  He gets them every other weekend.  Problem now is that the 15 year old wants to bring her bike home as the one she has there is broken and her mother refuses to buy her a new one saying that she should bring this one back home as she is only here every other weekend etc...  These aren't my kids but I am at a loss of what we should do...  Pick and choose our battles etc but if we let her bring this home what will be next?  Her bed?  She's brought virtually everything else home with her.  All that is left is this bike and her bed really...  

Should we just let her bring it home and be done with it??  I really don't know what to do.  Have you any suggestions?  Have you been through this before?  Any help would be most appreciated.

Thanks!  :)