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Since you appear famliar with the unfailingly ethical brotherhood of the viper pit, might you recommend a python of a divorce appeals attorney in the Central, VA area?
Forget politics. Leave that for the lawyers seeking election to office. That's not my fight. An appeal that has a chance is probably the best plan for all concerned. Guys tend to freak when deemed a "bad person" in a court fight over merely achieving a mutual parting of ways. The punishment of staying married beyond 10 years I consider as "time served".

BTW, your words "abuse of discretion" hit the nail on the head. Worth a shot.

:^)

>Whether any two specific states will separately cooperate to
>obtain spousal support is a very narrow question of those
>individual states' laws and not one I'm inclined to research,
>especially since your stated purpose is to violate a valid and
>enforceable court order, and my assistance would violate the
>Rules of Professional Conduct as well as potentially create
>criminal accomplice liability for me.

Thanks for your advice and good wishes, S.
I'm disheartened that we should be afraid to even find out what the rules ARE without being accused of Orwellian "thought crimes".
What we're dealing with here is, as you point out, a matter of which state you're in, in my case Virginia which remains one of the 5 archaic holdout states in reconsidering awards for permanent vs rehabilitative-only spousal awards in the modern era.
Anybody willing to roll up their sleevees and get the skinny state-by-state
needs to take a look at one of the tools available from the horse's mouths:
http://ocse.acf.hhs.gov/ext/irg/sps/selectastate.cfm

"Knowledge over Fear"

-Press

After an appallingly punitive divorce verdict, I've been ordered to pay child support (OK, I'm fine with that) but an absolutely absurd permanent Spousal-Maintenance award (can't we just say 'Alimony'?).

When considering the "move away" option, I have absolutely zero intention of dodging support for my son, even in absentia.

But, in trying to find out which states either do or do NOT bother trying to collect for another state's alimony gripe it gets very, very fuzzy.
Most state websites are very clear on their dedication toward  tracking down "deadbeat dad's " for the sake of the children through the federal USFSA sytem.
But they seem to vaguely lump "Child/Spousal Support" into one package.
It's 2 different things!
That is,  unless the court in your state issued a "unitary support" award encompassing both child and spousal support. But even then......

The truth is, no state website posts anything about what they do NOT enforce ,which is understandable... "here's what we do not do" would be senseless.

So far, I've been able to deduce only NV and AR as states that care about the kids only, but not greedy exes. There's gotta be more than those two?
The sites all say... "some states have reciprocal agreements and some don't", but those seem to be a best-kept secret amongst state Attorneys General.
Has anybody else looked into this?