It sounds like you ex is in contempt of court. You need to file contempt of court charges against him. First make sure your ducks are all in a row. If you are angry and just want revenge, you need to get in control of your emotions because going into court or confronting your ex in anger will not resolve the issue and will only make matters worse for you.
We've been where you are and understand what he is putting you through. You need to go to a reputable mental health professional in your area and have a complete evaluation that you can present to the court that establishes that your ex's allegations of "bi-polar" disorder are completely false.
You need to set aside any negative feelings towards your ex aside and focus completely on your what is in your son's best interest. He is at a very vulerable age where he could get into all sorts of trouble if one of you doesn't start focusing on him rather than your own pains, wants and desires.
Is your ex abusive in anyway towards your son and can this be proven in court? Find out as much as you can about his new spouse. I wouldn't be consumed by her possibly replacing you in your son's life. Since your ex didn't not establish his new family in a constructive manner that is in your son's best interest, this new marriage may only last a few months at best. Just remember the way your ex treated you and your child during the marriage is the way he is going to treat his new family. Abusive people rarely change. It is not in your son's best interest to move him into an environment where emotional ties have not been formed. Two visits and your ex believes everything is going to be better. For whom, himself or his son? He doesn't even know for sure if your son is going to get along with his new wife or the other children in the home. It sounds like he is going to try and force this new family sistuation on your son and this will backfire on him. You cannot force relationships they have to come naturally.
Even though your ex has custody, you need to stay calm and be the rock for your son. As your son matures, he will realize what a jerk your ex really is and in the end when your son is an adult, you will have a relationship with your son and your ex won't. Our sons and daughters are only children for a short time but then they become adults for a very long time so it is best to be patient and be there for your son without bad mouthing Dad, the new family and stay calm so that your son will want to be your best friend when he is an adult.
We've been where you are and understand what he is putting you through. You need to go to a reputable mental health professional in your area and have a complete evaluation that you can present to the court that establishes that your ex's allegations of "bi-polar" disorder are completely false.
You need to set aside any negative feelings towards your ex aside and focus completely on your what is in your son's best interest. He is at a very vulerable age where he could get into all sorts of trouble if one of you doesn't start focusing on him rather than your own pains, wants and desires.
Is your ex abusive in anyway towards your son and can this be proven in court? Find out as much as you can about his new spouse. I wouldn't be consumed by her possibly replacing you in your son's life. Since your ex didn't not establish his new family in a constructive manner that is in your son's best interest, this new marriage may only last a few months at best. Just remember the way your ex treated you and your child during the marriage is the way he is going to treat his new family. Abusive people rarely change. It is not in your son's best interest to move him into an environment where emotional ties have not been formed. Two visits and your ex believes everything is going to be better. For whom, himself or his son? He doesn't even know for sure if your son is going to get along with his new wife or the other children in the home. It sounds like he is going to try and force this new family sistuation on your son and this will backfire on him. You cannot force relationships they have to come naturally.
Even though your ex has custody, you need to stay calm and be the rock for your son. As your son matures, he will realize what a jerk your ex really is and in the end when your son is an adult, you will have a relationship with your son and your ex won't. Our sons and daughters are only children for a short time but then they become adults for a very long time so it is best to be patient and be there for your son without bad mouthing Dad, the new family and stay calm so that your son will want to be your best friend when he is an adult.