thanx for that.it made alot of sense.had a chance to talk to him on msn last night and he wanted to come round.I said best not,but after reading what you said it makes alot of sense.I dont and never would push him to do things,he makes his mind up and will stick by him.At the moment bar msn i have no contact with him.Apparently she has one of her friends(head doctor)coming round thursday to talk to him.The quickest solicitors appointment i can get is Monday.I just feel lost to be honest,like my hands are tied.