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>PS. See how sensitive and emotional I can be, behind my gruff
>exterior? I'll bet you didn't realize that I look exactly like
>that stud, plastic surgeon on Grey's Anatomy: [a
>href=http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0199312/]Dr. Mark Sloan
>(Eric Dane),[/a] now did ya?
>
>LOL!

Careful Soc, no woman can resist a handsome and sensitive man.  Don't make me dream about you.....  ;)

Thank you for the editied letter, I think it is excellent.  I will keep it in my arsenal.  I did however give the original to him yesterday afternoon as I was short on time.  He did call me right away, but was in control of himself and just said "Do what you want".  
Thank you again for your help.  I'm sure I will need you again soon.  You know there's always something!  

Dear xxxx,

   This letter is to inform you of my intention to exercise my court ordered right to custody of the girls this Friday, Sept. 29th.  I will pick them up from STARS at 5:30.  

   We are both entitled to the girls when the court order states, however I am also willing to continue to allow flexibility and I ask the same of you.  We both know it is best for the girls for us to do our best to cooperate.

  During our phone conversation on Sept. 1, 2006, we both made agreements to each other.  I feel I have followed that agreement.  On Friday, Sept. 15, 2006 you had your mother pick up the girls and baby sit them that night since you were out of town.  You had agreed to call me first if you needed a baby sitter, not only that, it was my court ordered Friday.  I ask again that you call me first especially if it is one of my court ordered Fridays that I have agreed for you to take.  I am also willing to continue to allow you to have the girls on my Fridays, but I ask that you please cooperate with me and refrain from angry outbursts when I inform you that I will be exercising my right.  I agree that it is best for the girls that we cooperate as you stated in our phone conversation.  



Sincerely,

XXXXX


Thanks again Soc.

Thank you so much, Soc.  I was afraid to enforce the C/O, I think he will try to go back for modification and use the fact that I've been giving him my time as a way to do it.  I am documenting all instances of him leaving the kids w/ a babysitter.

1) Should I write him a certified letter stating my intent to enforce the C/O?  

Dear Soc,
I am in Sacramento County. The children's father and I live literally 1/4 mile apart.
 In 2003, he did not show up for mediation. The order was adopted as is: Father shall have children Wed., and every other weekend from Friday after school until 8:00pm Sunday evening.
 We soon after agreed verbally that it would be best for the children to be w/Dad Wed., Fri. and every other W/E until he drops them off at school Mon. morning. It has been great for the children, they are thriving and doing very well in school.

 In March of this year, Fathers new GF moved into his home. Since then there have been many times He has left them with a babysitter instead of calling me first. He also took them out off school one day for 41/2 hrs without informing me to take them to Justice of the Peace when he and GF got married 8/31.
 I discussed these issues w/him and he agreed to call me first if he needed a babysitter. Fri. Sept. 15 was (per court order) my custody time, but per verbal agreement I assumed they were with him. He had his mother pick them up at school that Friday and babysit them that night as he went out of town. I was not informed, If I was I would have been more than happy to pick them up as legally it is my Friday anyway.
Our C/O does not state Right of first refusal, but I think Sac County is automatic.

1) Is right of first refusal automatic in Sacramento County or does it need to state specifically in the C/O?

2) Was he in contempt?

3) How do I begin to enforce the C/O ?

I am in no way trying to take away the time I verbally agreed to as it has been the best thing for our children, but since March the Father has not been exercising his visitation time by having babysitters instead of him or me. Thank you for any help or advice you have.

Dear Soc,
     I am in Sacramento County.  The children's father and I live literally 1/4 mile apart.  In 2003, he did not show up for mediation.  The order was adopted as is:  Father shall have children Wed., and every other weekend from Friday after school until 8:00pm Sunday evening.  We soon after agreed verbally that it would be best for the children to be w/Dad Wed., Fri. and every other W/E until he drops them off at school Mon. morning.  It has been great for the children, they are thriving and doing very well in school.  In March of this year, Fathers new GF moved into his home.  Since then there have been many times He has left them with a babysitter instead of calling me first.  He also took them out off school one day for 41/2 hrs without informing me to take them to Justice of the Peace when he and GF got married 8/31.  I discussed these issues w/him and he agreed to call me first if he needed a babysitter.  Fri. Sept. 15 was (per court order) my custody time, but per verbal agreement I assumed they were with him.  He had his mother pick them up at school that Friday and babysit them that night as he went out of town.  I was not informed, If I was I would have been more than happy to pick them up as legally it is my Friday anyway.  Our C/O does not state Right of first refusal, but I think Sac County is automatic.   1) Was he in contempt?
                  2) How do I begin to enforce the C/O ?
I am in no way trying to take away the time I verbally agreed to as it has been the best thing for our children, but since March the Father has not been exercising his visitation time by having babysitters instead of him or me.  Thank you for any help or advice you have.

Thank you!

I'm in CA.  Does anyone know if Right of First Refusal is automatic in CA or if it needs to be stated in the C/O?