First of all, I do genuinely trust my ex and she has not fallen for a mexican national, she has fallen for a resident. Furthermore, I trust my kids (the oldest is 11, almost 12) and their ability to find me if they were kidnapped by their mother. I've also spent considerable time in Mexico and I'm very familiar with how the law works there. This is not really the question I was asking. The best possible outcome for my children is a healthy mom and a healthy dad.
If I just say no, this is going to create an unhealthy mom (at least for the short term). I'm trying to avoind that by finding someone else that will say no that she will respect. I am looking for a professional or a professional reference that I can point her to so the no answer is not coming directly from me. Every professional that I/we have spoken to so far has not discouraged her/us in the least bit.
1) Is there a type of professional person with expertise in these types of matters or a good book I can reference that will say this is a bad idea for the kids. I'm talking primarily about the seperation of the children from each other and the other parent for 4 months at a time.
Thanks.
If I just say no, this is going to create an unhealthy mom (at least for the short term). I'm trying to avoind that by finding someone else that will say no that she will respect. I am looking for a professional or a professional reference that I can point her to so the no answer is not coming directly from me. Every professional that I/we have spoken to so far has not discouraged her/us in the least bit.
1) Is there a type of professional person with expertise in these types of matters or a good book I can reference that will say this is a bad idea for the kids. I'm talking primarily about the seperation of the children from each other and the other parent for 4 months at a time.
Thanks.