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I recently found my daughter after almost 5 years of her mother hiding her from me, apparently, she dropped her off along with her sister at her ex-husbands house whom my daughter had only met a few times. I hired a lawyer Thursday and we are having a tele-conference call with he and I and also the judge and my ex's ex-husband(who is on my side). My question is this...my atty and I are going to try and get Full, legal, and SOLE custody of my daughter for 90 days til we can get a court date set to make this permanent. If I am granted this what should I do to make sure BM never gets her back? They live in South Dakota and the mother is jobless,carless,homeless and is apparently pregnant again. I need your advice PLEASE!

What if the last known address no longer works then what do I do?I will do that and thank you all for your VALUABLE information and opinions! I will let you know how this goes next week. Thanks Again!

no I have never been served with no contact papers she just quit answering my calls and my mail so by now my daughter probably doesn't even know who I am. Can they hold her in contempt of court for doing this? Do you think I might be able to get some type of custody because I am now married and have a 2 and a half year old daughter who I'd like for her to meet her sister. Any suggestions? I don't have alot if any money to fight her!

Well I never went to court because it was in South Dakota but I signed paternity papers so therefore I pay my support through Tennessee who then sends it to South Dakota. The only thing the court papers say is that I have to give 24 hours notice before I show up but that's IMPOSSIBLE since I do not know where they live now! Not to mention that it's a 1300+ mile trip just to get there that I don't want to waste if I can not see her. Any suggestions?

Just wanted to say hello to everyone and hope you all can help me. I have a 7 year old daughter whom I have not seen since she was a year old and have not had ANY contact with her since she was a year and a half old. I pay my child support every week and the last time I tried sending her something it came back 'cause her mother had moved them. I never married her mother because she was married but separated at the time but I would LOVE to see or even talk to my daughter but they live in South Dakota can anyone help me? Please I am going out of my mind because I don't know where my daughter is or who is with her and what's really bugging me is I don't want her to think I have abandoned her.

What part of she did not leave me a forwarding address or phone number do you not understand? No, I did not know exactly where she was at and I'm not made of money. In order to get money you have to have decent credit which I did not have at the time but all that does not matter anymore because I did get an atty and now hopefully in June I will get my daughter as well.

First off let me tell you that you don't know everything about my situation so how dare you sit there and say that! YES, her mother did make it difficult actually impossible to find her because she did not leave me a forwarding address or phone number and it's not like child support would tell me anything. SECOND OF ALL she lived over 1500 miles away it's not cheap nor easy to travel that far especially when you had to give 24 hours notice to the mother but have no way of doing that NOT to mention taking off at least a week from work because it takes 4 days of travel time ALONE! I would have had to get an ATTY to file anything in court and they are not free for fathers anyways! Not everyone is made of money ya know. Anyways, I now have joint legal custody of my daughter and we go back in June for permanent custody. The BM has to get a phone so I can call and talk to my daughter as much as I want. She cannot move without telling me, therefore, now I can write as much as I want to and not have to worry about forwarding anything. She has to get a job and keep it which she has not had a job since DECEMBER. Basically the judge threw the book at her and told her she is to not interfere at all with me and my daughter. So yaaaa for me and my daughter and for those of you who gave me advice I say THANK YOU and I will post in June to let you know how things go.

I actually did hire an attorney because I found my daughter this past Tuesday night after her mother kept me out of her life for almost 5 years!!! I have talked to her twice this week! YA! The child support agency that had my case told me I no longer have to pay child support because of the mother no longer has custody. I am having a tele-conference call Tuesday with my attorney, the judge and my ex-girlfriend's ex-husband. He is the one that has my daughter as of now and is helping me. I have already established paternity(duh) I'm not paying child support for the fun of it! Sorry that wasn't very nice, anyways, like I have always said What Goes Around, Comes Around. Looks like my life is finally turning around for the better now my 2 and a half year old daughter has a big sister to look up to and she has not only me, but a little sister and a mother who will actually LOVE her. I say that because her mother dropped her off with people she doesn't know and the mother is jobless, homeless, no car and is apparently pregnant again! So say a prayer for my daughter and me PLEASE, her name is Katherine! DREAMS CAN COME TRUE IF YOU BELIEVE AND PRAY ALOT!

I just found out today that my ex-girlfriend no longer has custody of our daughter and I am looking for advice on what my options are for getting custody of her? They live in South Dakota but I do not know where all that I was told today is that she is no longer with BM and that I no longer have to pay child support. So if anyone can help I would greatly appreciate it! I would like to have my daughter back I have not seen her since she was one and she is now 7 1/2 years old! PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!