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Hi

My son was in court the other day for visitation, the entire process was less than ten minutes. We aren't even sure if this was the actual custody/support hearing. This was his first time in for visitation.
My son is awaiting his lawyers call back. He was given one day a week unsupervised visitation with his 5 month old son, and he's to provide the transportation.
He's scheduled to go back to court in January, and it's being called a court conference.

1. What is a court conference?
2. What happens during them?
3. Will this give him more visitation?

Thanks in advance

Lisa

I have to be honest with you, my sons ultimate object is to just spend time with his son in the least hostile environment possible.  His dad wasn't around much so he knows how terrible that feels.

Her family usually = a hostile environment. But he's willing to deal with that for now if that's what is expected.

 I'll let him know about asking about a third party for supervision. Would this have to be someone court appointed?

His lawyer was going to go with having me as supervising because my son still lives at home.

Thanks for answering my questions.

Hi,

My son and his ex had a baby about 4 months ago. She pretty much has refused him any time with his son till a paternity test was done, and he sent her a certified letter requesting such.

He's now seen his son twice, but always with her there. She told him the other day unsupervised visits won't be allowed by her until the baby is over a year old.

First time she came over it was with her mom, it wasn't too bad a visit, second time she showed up with her new bf and he was very verbally abusive to my son.

My son did send her a certified letter again, this time requesting unsupervised visits with his son, and let her know the bf acted very inappropriate and that his presence is no longer allowed in our home.
She told him no, the visits will always be supervised by me. I'm not comfortable with you being alone with the baby.


What he's concerned about is that now that he's allowing the visits to be supervised,  

1.will they remain supervised once he goes to court and asks for unsupervised visitation at the custody and visitation hearing?

He did ask his own lawyer this and she said that being he wasn't in the baby's life the first four months, even though it wasn't his fault that the court would want to have supervised visits in the beginning. Just to ease the childs comfort level.

But by the time he gets to court for the visitation, she could request unsupervised, being he's doing supervised now.

Thanks for your time.

Hi,

I was wondering if anyone can answer my question. My son recently found out that he is the Dad of a beautiful baby boy through a paternity test.

Everything is going through the courts. Someone offered us some advice and mentioned that it would look good for him to start sending money now instead of waiting till a support order is in place.

What my son is wondering is
1.  if this would be considered support and taken off the amount he'd owe? Or if it would be considered a gift?

 He doesnt' make a lot of money, and has been saving money toward back support.

Oh and we are in NY state.

Thanks

Lisa