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I may be missing something, but where is it and how do I us it?  Thanks

It's not that she wants to persue this lifestyle that is the problem.  If she wants to do it then do it, don't force our son to move away from his friends and family just for her own selfish reasons.  She agreed when she left that if he didn't want to go to another town she would stay close, but now she is in love and wants leave with him.  He doesn't want this and has told her so.  She would have nobody, except for her friend, to take care of him while she works 12 hour shifts. She hasn't thought of what is best for him and that bothers me.

Another thing that bothers me is that she bought a house to look like she is staying in the area only as an illusion.  She can't afford the house and is having her friend pay for the majority of it and her bills.  She has only known this person for 5 months that she meet on the internet and has bought a house with them.  Where do the kids live when they break up and this other person wants their money back.  Not to mention she is having this person pay for her attorney fees also.  She hasn't worked in 3 months since she wrecked her street bike.  I just don't see how she can be considered a stable person that can be responsible for the well being of our son.

The driving issue doesn't seem like a big deal until you consider that he has been at his present school for the past three years and it only takes 5 minutes to get to school.  She now lives in a town almost 30 miles away and this is only the first step into ultimately taking him 3 hours away if she gets custody.  He likes where he lives now and has no interest in moving, especially without me.  We have always done everything together.  If he was going something with Mon and I went out to the garage he dropped her like a hot potato.  All summer long before she got hurt she only wanted to do something if it suited her schedule or she drug him along on shopping trips with her friend.

I just get frustrated that she is not concered with his well being and is forcing her lifestyle change on him.  Let him be the kid he has always been in the same town he was born in.  Don't force him to leave only to go to a town that is more receptive to her new lifestyle.  Please, lets try to put the kids first for a change.  The court system seems to be biased towards her at this point.  I have raised and spend more time with him that she ever has.  She works 12 hour shifts and goes to school full time.  It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out who has been doing his homework and putting him in bed for the past 9 yearswhen she wasn't around.  Give a father an equal chance to prove that he can raise a child just as a woman is permitted to.

The mother of my son has decided after 15 years that she is a lesbian and wants to take my son to another town and be raised by herself and her new friend of 6 months.  He wants nothing to do with it and wants to stay with me, however he is only 9 and has probably no say in it.

She refuses to let him call me more than once a day when he is at her place and limits his calls to no more that 15 minutes.  She takes the phone from him and hangs up.  She does things in front of him with her friend that no 9 year should see and then asks me about it.  He continually acts out when he is there and resists going to see her except on weekends.

I tried to keep him in his same schedule that he was accustomed to and was denied by the courts.  He now has to drive 35 minutes to school half of the week when he is at her place.  He hates it and wants me to do something about it.

My last attorney had me do some things that I later found out to be incorrect, I and my son have suffered the consequences because of it.  I need some advice on how to find a qualified and honest lawyer that will hepl protect my son.  Please help.