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Up until recently I really believed we were going to work things out fairly, however, she continues to make decisions without my consent, and now this move, which will make it much more difficult to see him. She printed out a Parenting Plan from the state of Kansas but we never filed it. Is that what I ned to do?
My concern now is if she will agree to give me joint legal custody. I plan to talk to a lawyer on Tuesday just to get some idea of what rights I have, and to get an idea of what my next steps should be. I have to be honest, I don't trust lawyers, it's seems to be more about the money than anything else with them. But I certainly need some guidance in this matter.

thanks for the advise

To make a long story short: I am living in S California, my son and his mother are living in Kansas, but she is looking to move to Arkansas or Missouri.
I feel I'm being jerked around by her, but I really don't know what my rights are, how often I should be able to visit my son, if I have any say in where she takes my son. I need to know what is realistic.
We have been working at this for 11 1/2 months, but I feel she is being manipulative and very controlling. She says she wants me to be with my son, but she doesn't make it easy. She planned his birthday without consulting me, and says it will be amny years (5 or 6) before he can spend the night with me without her being present.

Should I just call a lawyer - my hope is it won't come to a court fight - to start a process, or are there baseline expectation I can use to negotiate my wants with her.

Any feedback is welcome.