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Our current visitation order went into effect on 2/2/07.  I was to have visitation every 1st, 3rd, and 5th weekend from 4:30pm Friday to 8pm Saturday.  I was also supposed to have court ordered phone calls every Tuesday and Thursday.

Less than one month later, mother refused to allow the phone calls.  she said she had a new job and the kids are no longer in her care during the evenings.  I took her to court for contempt and the judge ordered her to have the children call me "at night, when they get home" every Tuesday and Thursday.

she has not been doing this.  Instead she has YMCA initiate calls after school.  The environment is very loud and the kids are distracted.  they are pulled away from friends and group activities to make the calls.  the total call between both children is less than 2 minutes.  Sometimes only one of them is available to talk.  these calls are NOT working.

I want to file to modify the visitation order.  I want to discontinue the phone calls and extend my visitation to Sundays.  Is this a big enough change of circumstance now that the phone calls are not working?  Is the judge likely to agree?  Or will he think I am wasting his time by even bringing it up?

In January, My ex and I went to court to review visitation of my 6 year old daughter. My ex refused to give me a full weekend because she takes daughter to church on Sundays. We went to mediation and I agreed to take Friday night to Saturday night (far less than the average) with the agreement that I would have phone calls with my child every Tuesday and Thursday.

Our order states that father may call the child on Tuesday and Thursday evenings between 6:30pm and 7:15pm. If she is not available at that time, daughter will call the father when she comes home, before bed.

Tuesday, February 20-Called my daughter several times and got no answer. Finally called from a friends cell (number she didn't recognize) and she answered the phone. She told me that my daughter was gone for the night. Refused to tell me where she was.

Thursday, February 22- Called several times. No answer. No call back.

Tuesday, February 27- Called several times. Left a message. No call back.

This is now three consecutive phone calls that I have missed because ex did not follow the rules.

1.What can I do about this? I want to file a contempt, but I don't want to look petty in court.

2. How long should I let this go on before I do something about it?

3. Should I send her a certified letter first, and remind her of what the order says?

My reasons for being unable on Fridays are because of work.  I get out of work at 6:30 and then it's a 2 hour drive to their home.  By the time I get home with them, it would be close to 10:30 pm.

My daughters are 6 and 4 years old. For the past several months, I have been visiting with my children on Saturdays from 10:30-4:30.

I did some research and discovered that I am getting far less than the standard time for children their age.  I asked their mother for more time, but she said "no".  So I had to file a motion in court.

When we went to court the judge agreed that I should have overnight visits. Due to my work schedule, I am unavailable on Friday evenings, so I asked for EOW Sat-Sunday. Mom disagreed. Said she's been bringing the girls to church for years, and is not willing to change now.

I brought up the fact that her church has weeknight service, but she said they don't have Sunday School on the weeknights. I offered to bring them to church in my community and mom said no. The judge set us up for trial Next week.  

What is likely to happen in my case?  The time that I request is within the standard visitation schedule.  Does the court use church as a big deciding factor?

My daughters are 6 and 4 years old. Their mother and I have had an agreement and I picked them up on Saturdays, spend the day with them, and then brought them home. This worked for a few years...

Then things changed. As my children got older, started asking for more time. She moved two hours away, which cut my time short due to the travel. I started asking for more time. She would always she'll think about and ultimately the answer was "no". My daughters would always ask me if they could sleep over, but their mother will not allow it.

I did some research and discovered that I am getting far less than the standard time for children their age. Talking to mom didn't work, so I had to file a motion in court.

We went to court last week and the judge agreed that I should have overnight visits. Due to my work schedule, I am unavailable on Friday evenings, so I asked for EOW Sat-Sunday. Mom disagreed. Said she's been bringing the girls to church for years, and is not willing to change now. I brought up the fact that her church has weeknight service, but she said they don't have Sunday School on the weeknights. I offered to bring them to church in my community and mom said no.

The judge set us up for trial in January. Is anyone familiar with this type of thing? What is likely to happen in a case like this?