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Would it smell of revenge even if all I'm trying to do is put our current parenting plan in legal writing?  I was hoping the evaluator would make the decision of if I should have more.  I've been the primary caretaker since BM left and thats all I was trying to get in writing, but BM refuses.

I just recieved word that the evaluator is finishing the report in 3 weeks.  She hasn't called me for a follow-up interview, nor has she called any collateral contacts or professional contacts.

Should I be worried?

What my be the indication of this situation?

If the eval goes against me, should I fight it since no contacts were made for investigation?

Keeping in mind the original info in my 1st post, would that proof be enough for the evaluator to make a decision in my favor without any more research?

Thanks

This is our first time in court and I filed.  I just hope the evaluator doesn't make a decision without pursuing every lead and contact I've provided.  A lot of people I talk to tell me I have nothing to worry about, but I just don't trust the system.  What would surprise me the most would be if the evaluator recommended that my ex get primary over me.  I took this to court with the intention of getting what we currently have in writing so that I could hold BM accountable to some rules, since she seems to think she makes them herself.

I guees I should have faith in my evidence.  I'm just becoming so frustrated with all of this that its affecting my relationship with my child, you know?  I want some relief so that daddy can be his old self again.

I thought that CA was pretty much a 50/50 state regardless.  I've wondered what allegations my ex is making against me.  I know she can't prove anything because nothing exists.  I, however, knew going in that I better get proof of it all before I made the accusation.  You can't argue a phone recording.  Plus, there are witness' to some of the things she's done.  These are dangerous things too, so I can't understand why the evaluator would be dragging her feet when it's been shown that the kids are in danger.

Thanks for giving me your input on your situation!

DecentDad-

Did you get placement?

Did you take the matter to court or did your ex?

I think there is no reason the evidence I provided can be ignored.  I've shown she is very unstable and there is a pattern of this behavior from years back.  I just wish I had some clue as to where she is at in the process.  I just want to know that she is making progress.  I haven't heard anything nor have any of my collateral contacts.

Hello!  

I'm a BF in IN and currently awaiting to hear back from the custody evaluator for a follow up interview.  The evaluator just finished up with an interview and observation of BM's new fiance.  I will state facts that were presented to the evaluator and our current situation.

BM and I were never married and split 1 1/2 yrs. ago.  We agreed to visitation without going through the courts and I stayed in the home and had our child and her other child (not bio mine) 60% of the time.

BM met another man and immediately moved him in and began giving up visitation either for a couple of hours a day or overnights.  BM got engaged to this man and relationship was over within 6 mos.  BM threatened suicide again and BM then tried to come back to me and I refused.  Within 2 weeks BM was engaged to another man.  

I filed for paternity, custody and support and we are currently on a temp 50/50 schedule until eval is completed with recommendation.  Child is 3 yrs old.

Facts presented to evaluator: (by phone recordings with BM or doctor receipts)

BM attempted suicide while pregnant with our child.

BM has been violent in front of children.

BM has punched me numerous times

BM was witnessed leaving children in car by themselves for 30min.

BM has demonstrated numerous emotional issues.

I have taken child to 85% of all doctor appts.

I have no record and a stable emotional and family life.

BM is planning to move into new fiances home.

I have kept a journal and documented everything possible.

Non bio child is failing in school. 3rd grade.

QUESTIONS:

With this brief overview, what might the evaluator ask for next?

The evaluation is going on 5 months.  What is the normal timeline?

What should I expect to hear?

Thank you