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i started dating a man about 5 months ago, we will call him joe. he had a little boy with a woman we well call jane. the little boy is about to be one year old. i am perfectly fine with joe having a child. i love children and i would love to welcome him into my life. the problem is joe's parents, and come to find out today, janes parents want them to get married. they are not, of course, but this is causing problems. joe supports jane and the baby completely. she could not survive without his monitary support. she is now threatening that if they don't get married that she is going to take their baby away from him. i don't really know the rules of custody at all and i was wondering if anyone knew anything about his rights as the baby's father. please help soon because i'm afraid this is going to get ugly.
thanks
taylor

i am currently in her situation and i think that she is being a little ridiculious. i know that it is hard, but she has to realize, as i did, that your daughter is an important part in your life. one way you could make it better is to spend time with them together. you need to spend time with your daughter alone as well but include your girlfriend in the things that you do with your daughter. that is my biggest probalm with my boyfirend is that he doesn't include me in time he spends with his son. whatever you do though, do not cut the amount of time you spend with your daughter. she will always remember it and probably end up resenting your girlfriend for taking you away.