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thank you all for the advice... These things are so hard and i am not an expert at all this stuff becasue I havent had todeal with it that much.  I have retained an attorney and am going to begin the process of rewriting the papers... This time I will make certain that they say who he can and cannot leave her with... Again, i appreciate it :)

I know we will eventually end up back in court, but I was hoping to put that off for awhile. We have been switching time, and I have been trying to accomodate his schedule because I know that he doesnt have a choice as to when he goes or stays. But these last two summers he has lied to me about his time off and he even took his vacation for two weeks BEFORE she got there and then went back to work when she was there... AARRRGGG! This is frustrating! Then you run into the issue of how accomodating should you be?

Unfortunately, my ex is in the military and there have been times when he has my daughter that he has gone away and left my daughter with his wife. The way I look at it, she has no rights with my daughter, so do I have to leave her with her while he is gone or is there a way that I can insist that he sned my daughter back before he goes away? Since this woman is so awful, I can;t believe that courts wouldnt get involved... it's too bad too... I liked his last girlfriend...

OK, she is a drug addict who lost custody of all three of her kids because of it... they are telling me that there is no way that I can prevent her from being with my daughter. She has been arrested for drinking and driving and she got into an accident while drunk with her son and rolled her car with him in it. My ex lets her pick up my daughter and drive her to his home (5 states away)... She also is practicing the parental alienation thing and keeps telling my daughter horrible things about my husband ( I am remarried) and me. In my opinion, she is the source of 99% of the disputes between my ex and I because before he married her, we got along just fine and now he is combative. Not to mention the fact that since he married her he has become somewhat of an alcoholic. What can I do to keep her away from my child?

I have no idea how to use these forums... My ex is trying to take my daughter this christmas vacation even though the divorce decree says it is my time. He left several messages on my voicemail threatening that if I didnt let him have her that he would go back to court and have the support recalculated and that he was still coming to get her and that I had to "deal with it" what can I do? I really dont have money to get an attorney right now to fight all this. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for your time :)