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Thank you both for replying.

They've been gone since August 30th, so it has only been a couple of months.

At the moment, I'm trying to convince her to let me have my daughter for just a month or two, kind of as a visit... she doesn't need to know I don't plan on sending her back ;)

There is no custody plan in place to warrant a reversal.  We've literally just decided to split up, and she took my daughter.  

If there is a way that I can file paperwork that FORCES my daughter to be in-state (WA) until custody is determined, then I need to get down to the right department ASAP on Monday morning... anyone know the form name or number or even which department it'd be?  How 'bout costs?

Hello... thank you for looking, if anything.

I would like to consider myself a good, honest father.  My beautiful baby girl was born December 29th, 2003 in Boston, MA to what was then a loving couple.  We lived in Boston until December 23rd, 2005 when we moved to Tacoma, WA to live closer to my family (her family is in Boston).  

My wife and I then went on State Assistance (DSHS) because I didn't have a job at the time, and we obviously needed help.  

I went through their hoops (Washington State is VERY picky about Welfare stuff...!!) and did their dance, winding up in a state-funded school so I could get my A+ Certification, among other things (I'm a PC Repair guy... got a problem?  Lemme know!).

My wife, on the other hand, did nothing.  She lied to me constantly, telling me all about all of the places she was applying at, and how she was watching my daughter 24/7 without rest, and cleaning, etc etc etc...

Well, our DSHS benefits got cut, because she was expected to go through their hoops just like me, but decided she didn't want to.  If they had a problem with it, it was "their problem" ...

Our house became completely unliveable about 2 weeks before she took off.  She stopped cleaning, and at the time I was working about 8-10 hours a day hauling CRT monitors (the big, bulky ones... 15 to 24 inch models) around all day prepping them for shipment to Egypt to be resold.  She kept making excuses about how she tried to clean, but my daughter would always get into something so she'd have to stop.

Meanwhile, my daughter used to run around with Sharpie markers, pens, pencils, makeup, you name it... she even ran around with fecal matter once, splattering it all over the walls in her bedroom.

Well, anyway... I told her I wanted a divorce, so she called her parents, and they bought her 2 one-way tickets to Boston (she told me originally they were round-trip, and she would only be gone for a month...).

I accepted the idea, since I didn't know where I'd be sleeping (streets, homeless shelters, etc) once we got kicked out, and I didn't want my daughter on the streets in the middle of winter.

I even convinced my mother to give them a ride to the airport, to guarantee their safe arrival as much as possible.  

Walking out of that airport check-in area was THE hardest thing I have ever had to do...

Now my wife has decided that I don't deserve to have my daughter anymore, since I'm now with someone else who she accuses of being a homewrecker or whatever.  She refuses to let me have custody, even though she's staying with her parents in a 2-bedroom apartment with her 2 brothers as well.  That's 6 people in a 2-bedroom place...  My daughter has to sleep on the couch with my ex, and has to keep quiet 24/7 since the Landlord doesn't even know she's staying there, which is against their rental policy.  They also ALL smoke indoors, and my daughter has been diagnosed with Athsma already (just like dear old daddy.. yay).  They are also very aggressive people, often yelling and screaming at each other for no reason at all.  I've even overheard them trying to get my daughter to hang up on me, referring to me as "The @$$hole".

At the moment, I haven't done anything... I don't even know where to start.

I just know in the depths of my heart that I need my daughter back here, where I already HAVE a bedroom ready for her, and a horse that's been given to her (she's a horse freak) among many other benefits.

Well, my story is a lot more complicated, as you can imagine, but that's about the gist of it....

Does anyone out there know what I can do?