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Thanks again for the advice. This is a very stressful thing for me to even concider, whether we want to put the kids through this or not and all the other decisions are laid on me. I dont want to hurt the children or make them hate me or their father, we both know theyre always going to love their mother, but we want them to have the best life possible. Down here, we have resources available to us that the mother can not get. We live in a rather large city and i have found that theres many people willing to help us. Where the mother and the children live is widely known as the poorest county in kentucky. I just with there was another way to do this without putting us, the children, and our families through a bloody custody battle. But anyways, thanks again.

I undrestand your alls view on this. as alot of people have told us the same. But when you have pictures of your 5 yr old daughter with numerous cigarette burns on her chest you cant help but think that she is an unfit parent. Now, when my husband found the burns of course he went straight to the police tool pictures the whole nine yards just to have the CHR tell him that wasnt bad enough to remove the kids. There have been many situations where something like that has occured but we keep getting told its not good enough. I would have no problem with the kids not seeing their real mother ever again.
Does the fact that the kids want to be here and we have to force them to go back there with tears in their eyes have anything to do with us getting custody. Theyre 9 and 8 now.

About the heater thing, i lived like that, we would have about 3 or 4 heaters and thats how we stayed warm. This house was about 25*F. Not very warm at all and my step children were freezing, asking if they could go sit in the truck to warm up. anyone that has children and saw them like that wouldnt be very happy. I just need to know how to get the whole process started.

Thanks for everyones advice though.

hello, i am the Sm of 2 wonderful children in one bad situation. 6 yrs ago my hubby got divorced and unfortunetly the birth mother got primary custody. There have been many situations where my step children have not (as i see it) been properly cared for. For instance, we live in kentucky, the other night it was around 20*F outside, we had to go get some papers from the birth mother. Inside their house it was very cold. In a 2 bedroom house she only had one electric heater on. We pay child support, but do not see any improvements in the home or in what our children have at all.
 We want to get custody of these children, for we know we can provide a more loving home, more stable enviroment and a better atmosphere than the mother can. We dont know where to start on getting custody of the children. We cant afford a high dollar lawyer. (when they 1st got divorced my hubby had one and he dropped the case at the very end of it). Anyways, we need some help learning how to go about starting this whole process. We are willing to do whatever it takes.
     Thanks and hope to hear some feedback soon.