Thanks again for the advice. This is a very stressful thing for me to even concider, whether we want to put the kids through this or not and all the other decisions are laid on me. I dont want to hurt the children or make them hate me or their father, we both know theyre always going to love their mother, but we want them to have the best life possible. Down here, we have resources available to us that the mother can not get. We live in a rather large city and i have found that theres many people willing to help us. Where the mother and the children live is widely known as the poorest county in kentucky. I just with there was another way to do this without putting us, the children, and our families through a bloody custody battle. But anyways, thanks again.