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as far as CPS goes, i guess i've heard too many horror stories about them not doing anything, and no matter who calls, she's going to assume its me anyways. I spoke to ex today and she agreed to let the kids come down in the middle of February.

Immediately made an appointment with the same counselor my ss goes to and she said she would document everything for us. Will also be making a video of daughter. ex said that my daughter decided she didnt need counseling, so she's not taking her. ex said that all daughters problems are just stress!!! Thanks for all your help.

To be honest, I'm really afraid to call cps, because if they don't feel that for whatever reason she's not in danger, the ex will never let me see the kids. i have a few questions, though.

1.she seems to think that she can bar me from talking to my daughter. is this true?

2. because she won't let me see the kids right now, it is impossible to make a video. by law, does the school counselor have to talk to me, or can she bar her from doing this?

Update: my daughter talked to the counselor who then tried for a week to get ahold of the ex. she fnally did and ex said that my wife and I can no longer talk to my daughter. A few days later she let me talk to my daughter and she did NOT sound good at all. VERY depressed. Ex promised to take hr to Dr and a counselor. My wife found out today NONE of this has happened.

1. I cant afford a lawyer, please help guide me in what to do. If I call CPS she will never let me talk to my daughter again. Please help!

my daughter admitted to my wife and stepson that the reason she has lost so much weight recentley is because shes not eating. she lies about her food intake to her mother and thats how my wife busted her, because she lied to her and my wife was home all day and knew better. I got a message from my daughter about an hour ago stating that she went to the school counselor and told her everything. as far as i know, that would be documented. I have to be honest, my daughter is my #1 concern, but theres no way i can afford a lawyer right now, and this is going to start world war 3.

no, she doesnt look anarexic. shes very tall for her age and big boned. her mother has told her shes fat her whole life. i can get the video next time i see them, but thats the problem, because i never know when that will be. question... as i said earlier i do not have custody, but youre saying that i can get an emergencey court hearing?? how do i go about this without a lawyer, and in which state. the one i live in or the one the ex lives in??

this is according to my daughter, who i know is only 14, but very mature.as far as letters, who would they be from?? i;m not sure what you're talking about

She has a eating disorder which shes not being treated for. She has repeatedly told her mother that she doesnt sleep at night and has headaches everyday, and she hasnt taken her to the doctor. Her mother knows that the child needs counseling, but hasnt taken her. we are in the process of trying to get her to a therapist, but being 200 miles away, its up to my daughter to start  the process, but shes afraid of the ex and wont admit to her about needing counseling.

i have been divorced for about 5 years now. my ex lives in wisconsin and I live in illinois. the divorce was in wisconsin. SHe has made seeing the kids pretty impossible. i live 200 miles away and i would like to look into trying to get custody of my one child who is 14. she desperately wants to live with my wife and I , but the ex has full custody. my first question is.. I never signed the birth certificate because she told me that she wasnt mine at first. she has changed her mind a hundred times since then. i pay child support for both children and have never contested this even though no dna test was done. if I go for custody and its found out that shes not mine (god forbid) do i have any rights??
we were not married until this child was 2 years old.
 

i have been divorced for about 5 years now. my ex lives in wisconsin and I live in illinois. the divorce was in wisconsin. SHe has made seeing the kids pretty impossible. i live 200 miles away and i would like to look into trying to get custody of my one child who is 14. she desperately wants to live with my wife and I , but the ex has full custody. my first question is.. I never signed the birth certificate because she told me that she wasnt mine at first. she has changed her mind a hundred times since then. i pay child support for both children and have never contested this even though no dna test was done. if I go for custody and its found out that shes not mine (god forbid) do i have any rights??
we were not married until this child was 2 years old.
 

i have been divorced for about 5 years now. my ex lives in wisconsin and I live in illinois. the divorce was in wisconsin. SHe has made seeing the kids pretty impossible. i live 200 miles away and i would like to look into trying to get custody of my one child who is 14. she desperately wants to live with my wife and I , but the ex has full custody. my first question is.. I never signed the birth certificate because she told me that she wasnt mine at first. she has changed her mind a hundred times since then. i pay child support for both children and have never contested this even though no dna test was done. if I go for custody and its found out that shes not mine (god forbid) do i have any rights??