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Thank you for all your responses. I am almost 100% positive that she really is pregnant.
I saw three positive pregnancy tests and a note from a doctor.

At this point i am waiting for my anger and confusion to subside before I make any decisions.

I need to know what options are available to someone who is in my situation. She still lives at home with her mother, and I rent an apartment. I work full time and still it barely covers rent and expenses. I have no idea how i can afford child support, because i can barely take care of myself.

Her due date is sometime in July, so what do I need to do in the meantime?





>I agree.  Another possibility, when she realizes that you're
>serious about the fatherhood part and that you're willing to
>take that on WITHOUT being with her, she may find she's gotten
>herself in over her head and confess that she's not pregnant
>after all.
>
>If she is pregnant, you have to take responsibility for the
>child.  It's the most important thing you'll ever do, and your
>child will need you.
>
>Good luck!
>
>Oh, and PS - Until you're married, if you're going to have
>sex, wear a condom.  You can't leave birth control up to the
>girl, because if someone gets pregnant you'll be just a
>responsible, no matter what she told you.  I tell my 17 year
>old nephew this all the time, and I had him read your post to
>drive it home.  :)

Hi everyone. I am a little nervous about posting too much personal information in the event my ex girlfriend finds out I am seeking advice here. She is a very intelligent and web savvy individual who has cyber-stalked me in the past, so bear with me. She and I have known each other since high school (1992), but lost touch soon after. She looked me up on the web about 2 years ago and sent me an email. We met and soon after started dating.

The relationship lasted 1 1/2 years, ending in early November '06. I tried to end it earlier, but when I tried she threatened to commit suicide, so like a fool I stayed involved with her for a few more months till it was unbearable and finally came to my senses and finally broke up with her.

My ex-girlfriend informed me in late November '06 that she was 6 weeks pregnant. I broke up with her two weeks BEFORE she told me she was pregnant. Upon asking her how she could possibly be pregnant, she informed me that she removed her birth control device, known as "The Ring" in early October in order to allow her to menstruate at a later time of the month.

Needless to say I was upset that she did not have the decency to tell me that there was an increased chance of pregnancy and immediately suspected that she did it on purpose. Had I known there was an increased chance of conception, I would have taken the necessary precautions. I believe she knew that I wanted out of our relationship, and this was a way to keep me.

She did not have any explanation as to why she did not tell me about removing her contraception, which only increased my suspicion.

Besides hiring an attorney which I have yet to do, what do I need to do to protect myself?

I am not ready for fatherhood and my ex told me she wants to keep the child. She has already threatened to sue me for child support.

Please help.