Hi,
I'm new to these forums, and have a situation I'm hoping to find some help in.
I was with a girl for 4 years, and we were engaged to be married for a year. We have a 16-month-old son.
November 8th, 2006, she provoked a fight, in which she threatened me with custody, and locked herself in the bathroom with my son. She was acting crazy, and my son was screaming.
I picked the lock to the bathroom, to find her pressing him against the shower door. I told her to put him down several times, and she refused. I grabbed the arm closest to me (her right arm), and took him from her. She then used him to pull me into her knee, which she planted firmly in my groin.
After she refused to release us, I slapped her, and she ran to the police to file A&B charges against me. She produced bruises on her LEFT arm, which had not been touched during this incident. She also claimed that I had BOTH arms twisted behind her back, and threw her to the floor. According to her statement, she somehow kept my son in her arms through all of this...
Her statement has changed 3 times since the incident... One story was given in the police report, another was given on the PPO, and a third was posted online to her friends.
I was arrested and spent that night in jail. The court released me on Personal Bond, preventing me from returning to my house or having any contact with her. She then proceeded to dictate a parenting schedule of Tues & Thurs from 6p-8p, and 4 hours on the weekend.
There is a trial set for Feb 26th, at my request. A temporary order was just signed, giving me every other weekend from 5p Friday to 5p Sunday. It also ordered me to pay $664/month child support, and gave her family first rights to watching my son when she is in school or work, against my wishes to be awarded those rights.
She has a history of mental instability, witnessed by people in my family and who have lived with us in the past. The law doesn't seem to care. She has complete favor and I, being the father, am continually being subjected to the gender bias we've all come to know and love...
I need my son. She's far too unstable to properly care for him. She never even used to seem interested in caring for him. She would sleep until late hours in the afternoon, dropping brownies in his crib when he woke up, and going back to bed. I took care of everything.
She has recently been laid off from her job at GM, and has been attending classes to obtain a Class-A CDL to start working as a commercial truck driver. During this time, my son has been under the care of her homosexual dad and his partner, both HIV-positive.
We live in Michigan, and everything is going through the Wayne County court system. I have hired a criminal attorney to handle my trial Feb 26th, and hired an attorney from the American Divorce Association for Men (ADAM) for custody/support.
My questions are:
1. What can I do to better my chances of winning custody, based on her past behavior and care for my son?
2. How can I restore the rights that have been stripped from me and given to her family?
3. She has my house and belongings -- can I get them back?
3b. If I were to obtain my house again, where would my son end up? With me? Or with her and her family?
4. Is it wrong to consider her dad's sexual preference and the influence it could have on my son?
5. Can I address the HIV status of her dad and his partner as a potential risk to my son?
6. Is there anything more you can recommend that I do to better my standing with the courts and FOC?
Thank you!
Steve
I'm new to these forums, and have a situation I'm hoping to find some help in.
I was with a girl for 4 years, and we were engaged to be married for a year. We have a 16-month-old son.
November 8th, 2006, she provoked a fight, in which she threatened me with custody, and locked herself in the bathroom with my son. She was acting crazy, and my son was screaming.
I picked the lock to the bathroom, to find her pressing him against the shower door. I told her to put him down several times, and she refused. I grabbed the arm closest to me (her right arm), and took him from her. She then used him to pull me into her knee, which she planted firmly in my groin.
After she refused to release us, I slapped her, and she ran to the police to file A&B charges against me. She produced bruises on her LEFT arm, which had not been touched during this incident. She also claimed that I had BOTH arms twisted behind her back, and threw her to the floor. According to her statement, she somehow kept my son in her arms through all of this...
Her statement has changed 3 times since the incident... One story was given in the police report, another was given on the PPO, and a third was posted online to her friends.
I was arrested and spent that night in jail. The court released me on Personal Bond, preventing me from returning to my house or having any contact with her. She then proceeded to dictate a parenting schedule of Tues & Thurs from 6p-8p, and 4 hours on the weekend.
There is a trial set for Feb 26th, at my request. A temporary order was just signed, giving me every other weekend from 5p Friday to 5p Sunday. It also ordered me to pay $664/month child support, and gave her family first rights to watching my son when she is in school or work, against my wishes to be awarded those rights.
She has a history of mental instability, witnessed by people in my family and who have lived with us in the past. The law doesn't seem to care. She has complete favor and I, being the father, am continually being subjected to the gender bias we've all come to know and love...
I need my son. She's far too unstable to properly care for him. She never even used to seem interested in caring for him. She would sleep until late hours in the afternoon, dropping brownies in his crib when he woke up, and going back to bed. I took care of everything.
She has recently been laid off from her job at GM, and has been attending classes to obtain a Class-A CDL to start working as a commercial truck driver. During this time, my son has been under the care of her homosexual dad and his partner, both HIV-positive.
We live in Michigan, and everything is going through the Wayne County court system. I have hired a criminal attorney to handle my trial Feb 26th, and hired an attorney from the American Divorce Association for Men (ADAM) for custody/support.
My questions are:
1. What can I do to better my chances of winning custody, based on her past behavior and care for my son?
2. How can I restore the rights that have been stripped from me and given to her family?
3. She has my house and belongings -- can I get them back?
3b. If I were to obtain my house again, where would my son end up? With me? Or with her and her family?
4. Is it wrong to consider her dad's sexual preference and the influence it could have on my son?
5. Can I address the HIV status of her dad and his partner as a potential risk to my son?
6. Is there anything more you can recommend that I do to better my standing with the courts and FOC?
Thank you!
Steve