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Hey, ok I'll try those forums.. thank you.

I have joint custody with my sons mother. he lived with me awhile then witrh her for three years. about a year and a half ago we signed him into state assisted living because he is very violent.

I paid her 150.00 a week when he lived there... I went to court to get rid of support because he didnt live with her anymore.. I lost, lawyer cost me 2000.00 dollars did my lawyer just suck, or am i screwed I cant afford to waste more money on lawyers.

the situation is this.. He is in a state ran assisted living home... they feed him, bathe him, dress him, he lives there, they take him to and from school, they give all medications, and he has been given medicaid as far as health insurance goes.

the only cost to us as parents is clothes, and 40.00 a month for activitys.

I pick him up every weekend, where his mother rarly ever goes to see him.  The courts her in Southern NJ... decided i still needed to pay her 60.00 a week.

considering i already filed a motion, lost then a redo? or whatever its called and lost again... they told me all i could do would be to take it to a pella court, wich is more money and that bad lawyer said mayby 50 50 chance.

Ive been to jail over this, my hearts breaking because she has hurt me so bad financialy its affecting my activitys with my son.  this year i have paid her 16,000.00 in support and been to jail twice. Im a nervouse wreck as it is dealing with autism.

I did owe arrears.. but not now.

I had documented information before and still lost as a woman she just lied and they believe her... no proof of anything.

the state agency called me yesterday she hasnt paid the 40 dollars since October and I found out his winter coat was donated by the staff.

the judge just considered he didnt live with her and removed housing money... but thats just not all there is to it ,, I dont understand what their thinking... her , me  are the same as far as anything goes why do i pay?

Im trying to get the paperwork, that says when and how long a parent picks him up,.,,, they document it all.  thats going to hang her she hasnt visited him in about three months.  I go every weekend.

Only question i have is... since i already did court and lost...and did a reconsider hearing,,, or whatever... how long do i have to wait to try again to get it removed?  in court...

Im not leaving anything out,,, the bottom line is after the judge found out the situation he agreed that it should be lowered to 60.00 a week. She claims haircuts and clothing and taking him to the doctors sometimes as the reason,...  She lies... and doesnt do any of these things.   She doesnt even go to see him.

He has medicare, they take him to the doctors, i buy as much clothes as she does... and usualy cut his hair.. Although last time in court she complained she didnt like his last haircut, So the judge ordered i can cut my sons hair anymore.

I know this sounds insane. But every word is true.  These judges are out of control... I have yet to find one person who this makes sense to... but apparently this judge lives in some alternat universe.

I have joint custody with my sons mother. he lived with me awhile then witrh her for three years. about a year and a half ago we signed him into state assisted living because he is very violent.

I paid her 150.00 a week when he lived there... I went to court to get rid of support because he didnt live with her anymore.. I lost, lawyer cost me 2000.00 dollars did my lawyer just suck, or am i screwed I cant afford to waste more money on lawyers.

the situation is this.. He is in a state ran assisted living home... they feed him, bathe him, dress him, he lives there, they take him to and from school, they give all medications, and he has been given medicaid as far as health insurance goes.

the only cost to us as parents is clothes, and 40.00 a month for activitys.

I pick him up every weekend, where his mother rarly ever goes to see him. The courts her in Southern NJ... decided i still needed to pay her 60.00 a week.

considering i already filed a motion, lost then a redo? or whatever its called and lost again... they told me all i could do would be to take it to a pella court, wich is more money and that bad lawyer said mayby 50 50 chance.

Ive been to jail over this, my hearts breaking because she has hurt me so bad financialy its affecting my activitys with my son. this year i have paid her 16,000.00 in support and been to jail twice. Im a nervouse wreck as it is dealing with autism.