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She officially does because we had to choose only one. We've shared custody 50/50 since the divorce.

Hello all,

Here is my problem, as succinctly as I can explain. I am the father of a 9 year old daughter. I have been divorced from BM for 5 years, ever since she discovered she was a lesbian and left me. She lives in the same neighborhood as me (with her partner of 2 years). I have been remarried for a year now. We share custody of DD. She is with me 4 days a week and with her mother 3 days. Her mother works part time, freelancing. My wife and I both work full time. On the nights when I have my daughter, a babysitter picks her up from school and watches her for 2 hours. When her BM has our daughter, she picks her up as she works from home. We split the weekend days. DD is very settled, great school, etc.

BM has recently told me she plans to move to California and has said that if I don’t agree she will move anyway. She doesn’t have a job or house lined up yet. I am absolutely freaking out that my ex will take my daughter away from me. We don’t have any sort of official alimony, child support or custody/visitation schedule. I give her $500 a month and pay for absolutely everything for our daughterâ€"BM has a credit card that I pay for. She is very good at only charging daughter-related expenses.

My question: can she just move or is that considered kidnapping? Do you think the court will be sympathetic to a dad in this situation if I have to sue to keep her here?

Thanks so much.
Ron

Hello all,

Here is my problem, as succinctly as I can explain. I am the father of a 9 year old daughter. I have been divorced from BM for 5 years, ever since she discovered she was a lesbian and left me. She lives in the same neighborhood as me (with her partner of 2 years). I have been remarried for a year now. We share custody of DD. She is with me 4 days a week and with her mother 3 days. Her mother works part time, freelancing. My wife and I both work full time. On the nights when I have my daughter, a babysitter picks her up from school and watches her for 2 hours. When her BM has our daughter, she picks her up as she works from home. We split the weekend days. DD is very settled, great school, etc.

BM has recently told me she plans to move to California and has said that if I don’t agree she will move anyway. She doesn’t have a job or house lined up yet. I am absolutely freaking out that my ex will take my daughter away from me. We don’t have any sort of official alimony, child support or custody/visitation schedule. I give her $500 a month and pay for absolutely everything for our daughterâ€"BM has a credit card that I pay for. She is very good at only charging daughter-related expenses.

My question: can she just move or is that considered kidnapping? Do you think the court will be sympathetic to a dad in this situation if I have to sue to keep her here?

Thanks so much.
Ron