DEAR SIR(s) / MADAM (s)
I AM A FATHER WHO KNOWS NOT WHAT TO DO IN THIS SITUATION - CAN YOU PLEASE GUIDE ME TO WHAT I MUST DO TO HAVE A BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH MY DAUGHTER WITHOUT THE INFLUANCE OF HER MOTHER.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME,
L.J. WALLACE
AS MY STORY GOES...
I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP A LITTLE OVER 10 YEARS AGO..
THROUGH THIS RELATIONSHIP I CONCEIVED A CHILD.
IT SEEMS AS IF HAVING THE CHILD DESTROYED THE RELATIONSHIP BY BRINGING OUT THIS HIDDEN PERSON OF WHOM I THOUGHT WAS SOMEONE DECENT.
YES THIS STORY IS LADEN WITH THE TRIALS AND TRIBULATIONS OF A DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIP. BEING AS I WAS RAISED BY A SINGLE PARENT I LEARNED OF THE DAMAGE THAT IT CAN TO IF A CHILD IS SUBJECTED TO CONTRADICTING PARENTING.
SO AFTER THE DAY CAME THAT HER FAMILY CHOOSE TO SUPPORT HER AND MOVE HER BELONGINGS AWAY FROM OUR RESIDENCE. LEAVING ME AND MY BELONGINGS IN SOLITUDE AND DESPAIR. I DID WHAT I HAD TO DO TO RESURRECT MYSELF INTO A RESPONSIBLE ADULT.
NOW 10 YEARS LATER ON MY CHILD'S BIRTHDAY TOMORROW APPROACHING I FIND MYSELF CHALLENGED WITH DEALING WITH A WOMAN PARENTING MY DAUGHTER WHO HAS SUCH RESENTMENT AND MALICE. THAT A NEW BIKE THAT I CAN AFFORD MAYBE SUBJECTED TO THE DESTRUCTION VIA THAT PARENT.
NOW I PLAN TO TRAVEL THAT WAY DURING THE SUMMER AND ALSO WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH MY DAUGHTER WHO IS NOW A STRANGER. IT HAS BEEN SUCH A LONG HARD ROAD. AND I CHALLENGE ANYONE WHO WOULD SAY THAT A MAN CAN NOT FEEL THE HURT THAT A MOTHER FEELS BY LOOSING HER CHILD. I HAVE LIVED IN THIS HELL FOR SO LONG - I HAVE BEEN THROUGH THE VARIOUS STAGES OF LOSS. I AM NOW NUMB FROM THE PAIN IVE ENDURED.
MOST WOULD TAKE THE ROUTE OF GETTING A LAWYER.. BUT I AM STILL IN THE PROCESS OF RECOVERING FROM THE REBUILDING OF MY RESURRECTION. IE: PAYING STUDENT LOANS THAT HAVE PRODUCED MY CURRENT LIVELIHOOD AND ALL OF THE ARREARS IN CHILD SUPPORT THAT HAVE ACCUMULATED DURING MY SCHOOLING AND FINDING MY WAY BOTH EQUALING THE SAME.
NO AMOUNT OF MONETARY VALUE CAN EQUAL FOR ALL THOSE YEARS THAT I WAS SEPARATED FOR THE CHILD'S LIFE THAT I HAD TO FIGHT FOR EVEN BEING BORN. ALL OF THOSE TIMES TO LOOK DOWN AND SEE A BEAUTIFUL LITTLE CHILD'S HAND IN MINE. I WONT PUT YOU OR ME THROUGH ALL OF THOSE MOMENT THAT I CAN ENVISION AS BEING A DAD.
THE WHOLE POINT IS.. THAT IVE TOLD YOU OF MY CURRENT DISMAY. I REALLY NEED TO KNOW WHAT STEPS I CAN TAKE TO ENSURE NOT BEING JUST A MEMORY FROM MY DARLING SABINA.
SIGNED,
A RESURRECTED FATHER
3.21.07 - YESTERDAY WAS MY DAUGHTERS 10th BIRTHDAY. I DIDN'T GET TO WISH HER A DIRECT HAPPY BIRTHDAY. I CAN ONLY PRAY THAT GOD RELAYS TO HER MY LOVE IN ALL THE DAYS I AM AWAY FROM HER.
I SPOKE WITH HER MOTHER TO INFORM HER THAT I WAS SENDING MY DAUGHTER A MUCH WANTED PEDDLE BIKE. AS I INFORMED HER OF THE SHIPMENT THAT WAS TO COME SHE GOT MAJOR ATTITUDE. SHE TOLD ME "WHATEVER.. WHEN IT COMES I'M JUST GOING TO GIVE IT AWAY". IT LEADS ME TO WONDER JUST HOW MUCH OF MY LETTERS AND MAIL FROM MYSELF AND MY IMMEDIATE FAMILY ACTUALLY GETS TO SABINA. DOES A PARENT HAVE TOO MUCH CONTROL WHEN THEY CAN FILTER THE OTHER PARENTS CONTACT?
I SENT HER AN E-MAIL CARD WHICH WAS ALSO INTERCEPTED AND SENT BACK WITH THE FOLLOWING MESSAGE...
MAYBE IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO WRITE A NICE CARD FOR SABINA I WOULD SHOW HER. THIS IS HER BIRTHDAY FOR US A HAPPY DAY.
THE PERSONALIZED MESSAGE THAT WAS IN THE CARD WAS AS FOLLOWS:
HELLO MY LIL PRINCESS,
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IM NOT SURE IF YOU BIRTHDAY CARD MADE IT ON TIME CUZ I MAILED IT FRIDAY..
BUT MAYBE YOUR MOM WILL FIND A WAY TO LET YOU SEE THIS!
I WANTED TO WISH YOU A HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
I HOPE ALL YOUR WISHES COME TRUE THIS YEAR!
I LOVE YOU AND I PRAY THAT SOMEDAY WE WILL FIND A WAY TO BE TOGETHER!
HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY!
I LOVE YOU WITH ALL MY HEART AND I ALWAYS WILL UNCONDITIONALLY (ASK YOUR MOM WHAT IT MEANS OR LOOK IT UP IN THE DICTIONARY! smile!)
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FOR ME OK!?
LOVE ~ YOUR DADDY... L.J.
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NOW I ASK YOU WAS THERE SOMETHING IN THIS MESSAGE THAT IS HURTFUL?
AND IF THERE WAS SOMETHING TO RELAY THE PAIN I FEEL BECAUSE OF MISSING HER IN SO MUCH OF MY LIFE.. WOULD THAT BE SO BAD?
ALL REPLYS MAY BE DIRECTED TO:
[email protected]
I AM A FATHER WHO KNOWS NOT WHAT TO DO IN THIS SITUATION - CAN YOU PLEASE GUIDE ME TO WHAT I MUST DO TO HAVE A BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH MY DAUGHTER WITHOUT THE INFLUANCE OF HER MOTHER.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME,
L.J. WALLACE
AS MY STORY GOES...
I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP A LITTLE OVER 10 YEARS AGO..
THROUGH THIS RELATIONSHIP I CONCEIVED A CHILD.
IT SEEMS AS IF HAVING THE CHILD DESTROYED THE RELATIONSHIP BY BRINGING OUT THIS HIDDEN PERSON OF WHOM I THOUGHT WAS SOMEONE DECENT.
YES THIS STORY IS LADEN WITH THE TRIALS AND TRIBULATIONS OF A DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIP. BEING AS I WAS RAISED BY A SINGLE PARENT I LEARNED OF THE DAMAGE THAT IT CAN TO IF A CHILD IS SUBJECTED TO CONTRADICTING PARENTING.
SO AFTER THE DAY CAME THAT HER FAMILY CHOOSE TO SUPPORT HER AND MOVE HER BELONGINGS AWAY FROM OUR RESIDENCE. LEAVING ME AND MY BELONGINGS IN SOLITUDE AND DESPAIR. I DID WHAT I HAD TO DO TO RESURRECT MYSELF INTO A RESPONSIBLE ADULT.
NOW 10 YEARS LATER ON MY CHILD'S BIRTHDAY TOMORROW APPROACHING I FIND MYSELF CHALLENGED WITH DEALING WITH A WOMAN PARENTING MY DAUGHTER WHO HAS SUCH RESENTMENT AND MALICE. THAT A NEW BIKE THAT I CAN AFFORD MAYBE SUBJECTED TO THE DESTRUCTION VIA THAT PARENT.
NOW I PLAN TO TRAVEL THAT WAY DURING THE SUMMER AND ALSO WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH MY DAUGHTER WHO IS NOW A STRANGER. IT HAS BEEN SUCH A LONG HARD ROAD. AND I CHALLENGE ANYONE WHO WOULD SAY THAT A MAN CAN NOT FEEL THE HURT THAT A MOTHER FEELS BY LOOSING HER CHILD. I HAVE LIVED IN THIS HELL FOR SO LONG - I HAVE BEEN THROUGH THE VARIOUS STAGES OF LOSS. I AM NOW NUMB FROM THE PAIN IVE ENDURED.
MOST WOULD TAKE THE ROUTE OF GETTING A LAWYER.. BUT I AM STILL IN THE PROCESS OF RECOVERING FROM THE REBUILDING OF MY RESURRECTION. IE: PAYING STUDENT LOANS THAT HAVE PRODUCED MY CURRENT LIVELIHOOD AND ALL OF THE ARREARS IN CHILD SUPPORT THAT HAVE ACCUMULATED DURING MY SCHOOLING AND FINDING MY WAY BOTH EQUALING THE SAME.
NO AMOUNT OF MONETARY VALUE CAN EQUAL FOR ALL THOSE YEARS THAT I WAS SEPARATED FOR THE CHILD'S LIFE THAT I HAD TO FIGHT FOR EVEN BEING BORN. ALL OF THOSE TIMES TO LOOK DOWN AND SEE A BEAUTIFUL LITTLE CHILD'S HAND IN MINE. I WONT PUT YOU OR ME THROUGH ALL OF THOSE MOMENT THAT I CAN ENVISION AS BEING A DAD.
THE WHOLE POINT IS.. THAT IVE TOLD YOU OF MY CURRENT DISMAY. I REALLY NEED TO KNOW WHAT STEPS I CAN TAKE TO ENSURE NOT BEING JUST A MEMORY FROM MY DARLING SABINA.
SIGNED,
A RESURRECTED FATHER
3.21.07 - YESTERDAY WAS MY DAUGHTERS 10th BIRTHDAY. I DIDN'T GET TO WISH HER A DIRECT HAPPY BIRTHDAY. I CAN ONLY PRAY THAT GOD RELAYS TO HER MY LOVE IN ALL THE DAYS I AM AWAY FROM HER.
I SPOKE WITH HER MOTHER TO INFORM HER THAT I WAS SENDING MY DAUGHTER A MUCH WANTED PEDDLE BIKE. AS I INFORMED HER OF THE SHIPMENT THAT WAS TO COME SHE GOT MAJOR ATTITUDE. SHE TOLD ME "WHATEVER.. WHEN IT COMES I'M JUST GOING TO GIVE IT AWAY". IT LEADS ME TO WONDER JUST HOW MUCH OF MY LETTERS AND MAIL FROM MYSELF AND MY IMMEDIATE FAMILY ACTUALLY GETS TO SABINA. DOES A PARENT HAVE TOO MUCH CONTROL WHEN THEY CAN FILTER THE OTHER PARENTS CONTACT?
I SENT HER AN E-MAIL CARD WHICH WAS ALSO INTERCEPTED AND SENT BACK WITH THE FOLLOWING MESSAGE...
MAYBE IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO WRITE A NICE CARD FOR SABINA I WOULD SHOW HER. THIS IS HER BIRTHDAY FOR US A HAPPY DAY.
THE PERSONALIZED MESSAGE THAT WAS IN THE CARD WAS AS FOLLOWS:
HELLO MY LIL PRINCESS,
Can't view this greeting? Download Flash Player !
IM NOT SURE IF YOU BIRTHDAY CARD MADE IT ON TIME CUZ I MAILED IT FRIDAY..
BUT MAYBE YOUR MOM WILL FIND A WAY TO LET YOU SEE THIS!
I WANTED TO WISH YOU A HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
I HOPE ALL YOUR WISHES COME TRUE THIS YEAR!
I LOVE YOU AND I PRAY THAT SOMEDAY WE WILL FIND A WAY TO BE TOGETHER!
HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY!
I LOVE YOU WITH ALL MY HEART AND I ALWAYS WILL UNCONDITIONALLY (ASK YOUR MOM WHAT IT MEANS OR LOOK IT UP IN THE DICTIONARY! smile!)
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FOR ME OK!?
LOVE ~ YOUR DADDY... L.J.
We are currently testing a new browser feature. If you are not able to view this ecard. Please click here to view in its original format
NOW I ASK YOU WAS THERE SOMETHING IN THIS MESSAGE THAT IS HURTFUL?
AND IF THERE WAS SOMETHING TO RELAY THE PAIN I FEEL BECAUSE OF MISSING HER IN SO MUCH OF MY LIFE.. WOULD THAT BE SO BAD?
ALL REPLYS MAY BE DIRECTED TO:
[email protected]