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the state involved is new hampshire.

the first question is the original support order cam from rhode island. that order was for a monthly amount, with no set due date, just a monthly payable amount.

the new court order form the new state has a set due date in the middle of the month.

before the new raised amount was set, the father paid the old order on the first of the month. When the new order was set dad paid the difference between what was already paid on the old order and the new order.

The state will not acknowledge anything predating the midmonth court order,unless the mom agrees. mom will not and is looking to get paid for that month "twice" dad is now in arears to the new state for the amount of the old order.

if dad had paid the old child support order AFTER the new one went into effect she could not do this. as the state would have acknowledged that check as "thiers".

Does the father have any chance in compelling mom to accept this old support as part of the new support?

original court order was set at the last weekend of every month to accomodate dads work schedule. driving is split.

 Parents live 4 hours from each other, and mom has a history of moving every two years. especially seeming when ever dad has attempted more involvment. this last 4 hour distance created by mom, 2 years ago. after parents lived 45 minutes from each other.

mom went to court in her new state,to revisit child support and visitation. Claimed children wanted more time with dad. asked for one weekend in dads state and one weekend in her state, with dad doing all the driving on her state weekend. she changed the alternate holidays to one day, and asked for no school holidays and summer break time.

the judge ordered mediation but then turned around two days later and made the final order.

the judge disregarded dads revised plan that asked for 3 day weekends every month, and alternate holiday weekends, and alternate holiday breaks and summer holiday time. Dad also accomadated the driving distance.

Since inception of moms plan, she has denied christmas and easter- (easter is pending, they said they are not coming yesterday) because the kids don't want to come for one day, and the kids denied his last visit at thier state because they did not want to spend it in a hotel. the 16 year old oldest, has not been to the fathers home since sept. 2006.

the relationship with the kids has become very strained since dec. mom seems to be feeding them alot of information that is untrue, and has told the kids they get to decide if they want to see thier father(they are 16,14 and 11)


As there are 6 more years of court order left, the father wonders how much he should push for visitation as the older children are becoming more and more resentful of having to visit him. The mother monitors all phone conversations also.

as visitation was always made difficult by mom, dads assertion is her asking for one more visit a month in her state was some sort of sympathy ploy, for the child support portion. (of which the father has no problem paying what is deemed fair) its just very strange someone who continually denied court ordered summer vacation time and more weekends than we could count, would go to court asking for another weekend. I don't think she expected him to take them?.....

the father appealed the courts decision for not following through with mediation, but it went to the SAME judge and was denied. It is now headed to the state supreme court, meanwhile the mother is busy playing games, and the fathers lawyer is sitting on her hands about contempt, for the missed visits since the new order, claiming she is busy with the supreme court. and its going to cost alot of money (no kidding? but what else can he do?)


All we want to know is this customary? it could be many more months before the supreme court hears this case. And meanwhile the relationship becomes more damaged.

is it to late in the game for a GAL for the children? should he be asking for family counseling? Or is his lawyer correct in just waiting for it to be seen by the supreme court?