Hi there ,
Thank you all for answering me back. I have never been in trouble with the law in my entire life so that's not an issue. When my ex and I were together we signed the papers for gaurdianship willingly because we were young , listening to the great grandparents and their lawyer , and bein' told we would be able to see my daughter and take her out of the home when we wanted to. But nothing was stipulated in the papers at all about visitation , child support , or anything else. These GREAT grandparents (my ex's grandparents) have kept my daughter from getting to know my family , my brother has seen in maybe twice in her entire life due to these people. My dad isn't allowed in their home because the great grandfather has made it impossible to get along with him. My grandfather passed away before Amanda was able to get to know him and seen him maybe two or three times. My mom goes to visit with me and my now current wife when we're able to go.
It's not that I want my daughter with them right now it's more of a matter of she's used to them , in school , and what not. And I think to just try and jerk her out of their home would be a very emotional thing that could possibly hurt her big time. Otherwise , I would like to be able to get her removed from their care and into another family member's home until I am able to get all the court stuff squared away and able to take her out of the state of indiana. Therefor she can be ween'd so to speak away from the great grandparents.
When I sent money for birthdays and what not , it's always been cash so I know there is no way of my bein' able to prove that. I've got very minimal receipts of all the stuff that I have bought her due to the fact I never thought the great grandparents would pull a lot of the stunts they have and I wanted to build more of a relationship with my daughter and so my wife of 2 yrs would be able to build one with her as well before trying to do anything legally. Between my mother and myself , we've always taken pictures from when we have been there visiting. When she opens gifts we take pictures. Some of the stuff that had been given to her are handmade so there is no way of really placing value on that.
What it all comes down to , these people are being vendictive because they knew I had lost my job of 5 years and trying to find another so they felt that it was time to give me a low blow of doing this right now. They have never brought up child support until I told them no to the adoption. But if a court wants to make me pay back child support so be it. I'll do it with a smile because I know I have a lot more rights once it's all on paper and they won't be able to pull the stunts they have in the past. Not to mention it would give me even more of a pot to pee in as far as having the gaurdianship terminated.
Sorry this is posted a 2nd time , didn't think anyone seen this after I seen all of your posts because I apparently replied to a different area or something and it stashed this response in the middle so couldn't tell if it was a new post or not...
Thank you all for answering me back. I have never been in trouble with the law in my entire life so that's not an issue. When my ex and I were together we signed the papers for gaurdianship willingly because we were young , listening to the great grandparents and their lawyer , and bein' told we would be able to see my daughter and take her out of the home when we wanted to. But nothing was stipulated in the papers at all about visitation , child support , or anything else. These GREAT grandparents (my ex's grandparents) have kept my daughter from getting to know my family , my brother has seen in maybe twice in her entire life due to these people. My dad isn't allowed in their home because the great grandfather has made it impossible to get along with him. My grandfather passed away before Amanda was able to get to know him and seen him maybe two or three times. My mom goes to visit with me and my now current wife when we're able to go.
It's not that I want my daughter with them right now it's more of a matter of she's used to them , in school , and what not. And I think to just try and jerk her out of their home would be a very emotional thing that could possibly hurt her big time. Otherwise , I would like to be able to get her removed from their care and into another family member's home until I am able to get all the court stuff squared away and able to take her out of the state of indiana. Therefor she can be ween'd so to speak away from the great grandparents.
When I sent money for birthdays and what not , it's always been cash so I know there is no way of my bein' able to prove that. I've got very minimal receipts of all the stuff that I have bought her due to the fact I never thought the great grandparents would pull a lot of the stunts they have and I wanted to build more of a relationship with my daughter and so my wife of 2 yrs would be able to build one with her as well before trying to do anything legally. Between my mother and myself , we've always taken pictures from when we have been there visiting. When she opens gifts we take pictures. Some of the stuff that had been given to her are handmade so there is no way of really placing value on that.
What it all comes down to , these people are being vendictive because they knew I had lost my job of 5 years and trying to find another so they felt that it was time to give me a low blow of doing this right now. They have never brought up child support until I told them no to the adoption. But if a court wants to make me pay back child support so be it. I'll do it with a smile because I know I have a lot more rights once it's all on paper and they won't be able to pull the stunts they have in the past. Not to mention it would give me even more of a pot to pee in as far as having the gaurdianship terminated.
Sorry this is posted a 2nd time , didn't think anyone seen this after I seen all of your posts because I apparently replied to a different area or something and it stashed this response in the middle so couldn't tell if it was a new post or not...