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she is almost 15.

I just found out the my daughters step mom is hitting her.she is scared to tell anyone because of the things that are going on at home.I live in another state and her dad is giving me custody June 14th but she has to stay there until then,unless someone can give me some advice and turn me in the right direction.please help me.I dont know what to do since I dont have custody and dont want to mess up the plans for June.

First of all....he never called regarding this matter.I have had summer visitation every year so its not like I have not had contact with her,I also talk to her daily online or on the phone.I am not tricking anyone so how dare you imply that I am??? All I am doing is getting my daughter out of a bad sitiuation and working the details( most of them) out as soon as she is safe.We have agreed to visitation for next summer but things as transportation costs and such will be discussed at a later time.and as far as us working together for our daughter,we are attempting to do so,he has agreed with my proposal on her living here with me and getting her out of that house,I have been trying unsucessfully to do this for the last 6 years and finally he realized that I am right and this is the best thing for her.He has requested that he does not want to take this to court and to do this with as little hassle as possible,I told him that we could do it that way and then when I got her here I was going to take this issue to court and have it made legal,I am not sneaking around as you seem to think,I am just doing what needs to be done to get her out of there and somewhere that she is not being beaten on daily,and if you think that is wrong,put yourself in my place for a few minutes,would you not do anything and everything possible to protect your child,even if it doesnt seem right in someone elses eyes?? I have also put myself in her dads position and I know how he feels having to let her go,but he also knows this is something that he needs to do because she has threatened to run away to get away from the things that are going on.I dont know about you but I wouldnt want my daughter alone on the run to get away from there,he feels that he has lost the battle and I told him that she will be safe here and not getting hurt.I dont know why you claim that I am being vindictive,every detail of this has been discussed with her dad and we have talked many hours regarding the important issues,and to me trasnportation costs to and from visits isnt one of them.and as far as the visitation I am not willing to allow her back into that home where the other 3 kids are being abused just to see her dad and get put through all that again....would you knowingly allow your child to go somewhere that you knew they were going to be abused? Well I am not allowing that to happen.

I need some more advice,I am getting my daughter soon as I have mentioned in a previous post,I need to know that after the 6 months is up and I go for sole custody,is there any way that I can not allow her dad to see her as there is physical abuse,and neglect going on because of his current wife.He does not do nothing to put an end to it,so as I see it he is as much at fault as is his wife.There is rarely food in the house and my daughter is made to cook for everyone in the house....there are 6 people there and she also has to clean the house,babysit and help her younger 1/2 brother as well as her step sisters with their homework.Her attendance and grades are terrible,but that is not the issue at hand,I just want to know if I can protect her from having to go to see him in the summer as he has requested to have her for 6 weeks.His wife yells,screams,hit,grabs the kids by their hair and pushes them to the floors,refers to my daughter and her 2 girls as B****es and seems to thinks that she needs to do this to get their attention so they will listen to her and be at her beckon call and wait on her hand and foot while she sits and does nothing all day,not to mention the living conditions at the house,they have like 8 cats and numerous other things running around the house.sorry for getting off the subject but I wanted to add a lil back ground of things.I really need to know if it will be possible for me to do this so that my daughter dont have to go through all the stuff she has been for all the time she has been there.His family will back me up on this because they have been there and seen things going on as well.

I can go to court in my state after 6 months,even though the custody case was done in his state? I have written a statement and we are going to get it notarized when I pick her up from him.

I am so happy,I get to go get my daughter may 19th from her dad.He woke up one night and decided that he simply don't want her anymore which really makes me mad.He is also pulling her out of school almost a month early....is that considered neglect? He also informed me that in exchange for her,he does not want to pay child support.He also said that he wants summer visitation I told him OK but have not mentioned any of the details...for the last 10 years I have had to pay all costs to and from visitations which is expensive because we are in 2 different states,about 1900 miles from each other,is it possible that he have to pay all transportation costs if he wants to see her? I am not going to make him think that this is the plan or I am afraid that he will change his mind and keep her there where she is being abused at the hands of his wife.I have also gotten information from his family members of numerous other things that are going on and that his family would feel better if she were not there with him where he is allowing his wife to do things to my daughter as well as her 2 girls and their 6 year old.I know that theres not nothing that I can do to get the other 3 kids but what steps can be taken to see that they are safe,as the 6 year old is my kids; 1/2 sibling? My kids are extremely worried about him and dont want him or the 2 girls to have to put up with the things in that house.I am not sure if anyone here remembers me as it has been a long time since I was on here and had another name...but I am the one that has the son that was addicted to Meth and alot of other stuff and was at the time was really a mess...well its been 4 years now and I have to say that he is a totally different person,he turned 19 on may 11th and yesterday for mothers day he gave me the greatest gift...a high school diploma. I can't even start to say how happy I am because 4 years ago things were so bad and now things are so great.I know that things can change over night but for now I am enjoying things the way they are and not sitting here wondering what could happen but enjoying what is happening today..I can't worry about tomorrow.

My ex husband has my daughter,he told me that she is going to come live with me,I need to know what I need to do so that he dont change his mind and say that I never returned her after summer visitation.She also told me that he plans on moving after she moves here.He is willing to get a statement notarized stating that she is goingto live here.Should I take that to an attorney in my state after I get my daughter for the summer? please help