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Yes that is correct. I am not stopping the children from seeing their mother. However, it would just be a change in custody. I would be willing to fly them to Florida every summer and holidays. To me the best interest of my children would be to offer them a normal life with out having to be uprooted by their mother from home to home. To go through watching their mother get into constant fights with boyfriends.  The last boyfriend the kids were afraid of and when things got really bad she would not let me come get them afraid that I would try to keep them permanently.  If my children want to stay with her I would defiantly take that into consideration but would want to see her get some help and make better decisions for them.

I have taken the kids to NC and they love it there, both have made comments that they would love to live there.  I know it would be a difficult change at first but I feel it would be best.  If I do move and lose custody I believe it would only take 6 months or so before I got the call to come get them from her. She has no support system here in Florida as all her family has moved away and friends have been burned out from her dumping the kids off on them so she can go party or needs a break. She calls us most of the time now when she needs to drop them off on the week or weekends she is suppose to have them which is fine and I prefer it.

So I can assume to lose custody is kind of the feel I get from your response right? It will only be a matter of time when she abandons them, which has happened before when she flips out. I know no ones perfect including myself but I want my children to have a better life with out all the constant drama not to mention the damage that is caused by her insults and no respect for me in front of the kids.

I guess I will pray and hope for the best.

Thank you,
Harley Davison

I am located in Florida and currently have 50% custody of my two children; one is 7 girl and the other 12 boy. My wife had cheated on me and ended up pregnant with another mans baby causing the divorce (this would be baby number 2 but the first one she lost).

It has been a difficult separation for the kids and myself. Once my ex-wife had her baby things got more complicated for our two children and the ex constantly has degraded me in front of the children and is very hateful. A restraining order had been placed on the new babies daddy because of the abuse he dished out on my ex-wife. Eventually he ended up in jail.

It has been a rough 4 years and another baby might be on the way for my ex-wife with her new boyfriend. My two children have been sharing a room and help take care of their new baby brother at her house. She does not pay any of her bills and is in constant financial trouble but always seems to have money for Disney World, new clothes, and fake nails. I had remarried and am very happy but for my new wife it has been very hard. My new wife and family got counseling to help deal with all the crap that has gone on the past couple of years.

I am very attached to my children and love them both so much. I want full custody of them but there is no talking to the ex-wife as it gets ugly whenever I have tried and I don't want my kids to see her curse me out in front of them.  My new wife has a good stable career and was offered a job in NC making a substantial amount more than she has ever been offered but we are not sure how to go about this with the kids and the ex-wife?

All I want is the opportunity to give my children a solid stable life with out having to move constantly with their mother and new siblings. I would not mind if she wanted to visit them for the summer but would like to have them most of the time. Am I wasting my time if I fight for them? Most people tell me that there's no way I will be able to get full custody of them and to just give up.

I currently pay all the child care, medical, child support to my ex-wife, and some of the bills she was court ordered to pay but she could not get refinanced under her own name so shortly after the court hearing she just stopped paying and they came after me (both our names were on the car she took). She was also suppose to keep them on her medical plan but after a few months she took them off saying it was just too expensive. I submitted new paperwork to the case worker regarding the changes but they completely screwed it up increasing the child support even more then after fighting with them to get it corrected they just said no change. Then in a nasty way the case worker asked me why I took over the bills that were supposed to be hers and that I was not supposed to do that?

Sorry this was so long I am just trying to add some of the details of all that I have been going through. All of this is true.

Thanks,
Harley Davison