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Thanks...you are correct, i was not jumping into this when introducing him to my children. We had been together for three years, but I've known him five years.

I've packed his things already, but haven't dropped them off. I'm afraid and in denial I guess.

Thank you so much cinb85. I will probably need to do that. And it's nice to be able to talk to someone who's not judging me for taking him back in the first place. It gets really hard at home, my youngest slept with me last night, he's already feeling sad about him not coming home. I haven't told them yet, although I know they know somethings wrong. Honestly, i don't know what to say to them.

We have been together for three years, so, yes, the child was conceived during a time there was a short break between us. But i was very forgiving. I am torn up inside, but i have to keep it together for my kids, and for work. And at night, I just break down and cry myself to sleep.

thank you for the kind words

Yes, I haven't seen him or spoke to him since Friday ( the day his visitation started). This is hard on me and my family. I have three boys (form my ex-husband), who love him(fiance). I did not think that things were going to happen like this. Right now i'm in complete shock.

Well, he went Friday, and didn't return. I haven't heard from him at all. Thank you all for you help and sharing you personal experiences with me.

Prattwoman

Yes, the mother is there and the child keeps reaching for the mother. He has not tried to be alone with him. I have the video camera, and will use that suggestion.

Thanks!

My fiance's son is 15 months old. For 6 months, up until March, he was the main provider. Well the mother and him got into an arguement and she took the son away. They have now come to an agreement with their lawyers for joint custody and visitation. We he hadn't seen his son for 2 1/2 months, and now he screams when my fiance tries to hold him. So of course, the ex (who wants him back) suggest he come and stay at her house for the weekends that are supposed to be his, so the child can get used to the father again. Is that the best way for him to rebuild this relationship back with his son? All comments are welcome. Thank you.