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Yes,

The parenting plan is court filed 2/05 and states 5 weeks.  However, she says that I agreed to less time so the boys could play baseball which isn't true. The less than five weeks is no written.

The boys told me they would rather miss out on the last few games to be with me, but "mom" said no.  I want them to have fun, but I so want to spend time with them. :(

Dabryguy9

My lawyer has instructed me not to talk to her due to her rants and out bursts.  My laywer sent her lawyer all dates and times for pick up.

Bry

Her and kids live in New Mexico
Me lives in Arizona (2 hours away)

In january we met with lawyers over summer plans.  We agreed to that I would have five weeks of summer time with them (which is what is in the parenting agreement approved by the court in NM in Feb 2005) I said they could play sports and would move my time with them to the last five weeks.  I was to pick them up last sunday 7/8 but she said since baseball season won't end for one of the boys the youngest that I have to said until the 18th of July.  I had made reservations for hotel back in February for next week to take them on a little trip.  The meeting was verbal and not written or signed.  Am now looking at only having 3 weeks instead of my 5 weeks.  She does everything she can to keep the boys from me.  I said then I want a refund for my support for the month of July and she refused.  

Lawyers seem to be too busy (i understand that) but am losing out on time with my kids... what to do?

Signed,
A dad that wants to be part of his kids life... Bry

I live two hours away in Arizona, am worried that he is gonig to be come a problem for his mom.  I can see the way her reacts to things she does when he is here.  He is started to talk back to her and etc.  She refuses to communicate with me on anything dealing with the childred, so all I can go on is what I see and hear from the boys.

DaBryGuy9

Everyone,

I have been told by friends that in the state of New Mexico at age 12 the child has the right to choose who they wish to live with.

I have tried to google this subject but can't get any real answers.  My son tells me he wants to live with me, he is a very smart kid and knows that the school he goes to know doesn't have the awards as the school where I live does.  I want him to have the best education and want to have him.  He does have a little brother who is 7, and I think at that age mom is a good choice.

If anyone knows please let me know!

DaBryGuy9

Over the weekend I had my boys, and out of the blue my oldest son asks me "Dad, what would you do if you found out XXXX wasn't your son?"  I was shocked, and told him I don't think we have to worry about that.. and left it alone.  The next day I asked him "Did you hear someone says that your little brother isn't my son?"  He froze, and didn't want to talk... then said "no Dad, was just asking" he is 11.

I sent the boys' mother an email asking her about this, and her reply to me was "They are your kids, and am not going to allow you to make them take a DNA test..."  So now am thinking something is up.

For 10 years she had at least 8 boyfriends that I found out about when I caught her with the last one.  

Can she legally stop this, we have joint 50/50 custody...

Help!

I talked to the publisher about a name change, I write freelance for another automotive publicaton under a different name (can't have car type A guy writing about car type B LOL)  But they agreed that having my name drop off the publication would just give her more to stirr up and us to try and find a replacment the readers would trust.  Their lawyers just told me to "deal with it!"

Just hard to know that her and her new man tell me to "move on", and I have remarried, etc yet they read my stuff and make comments about it to the kids or online.

Dabryguy9

Okay need some advise on how to handle this.  Am an automotive journalist, I write for a small publication for owners of certian cars.  My ex-wife knows all about my job.  Am published heavly and have my own column in the publication where I respond to my readers, plus a post on several automotive websites.  

While this hasn't happen in the past few months I know its going on.  She or her new man will search the internet looking for my posts or my articles, then make reference to them in yahoo profile (which I don't even waste my time looking at anymore).  

Case in point, I was sent to Philly to cover a car show as I do each year, they company pays for the airline, hotel, etc and I stay a week to do follow up articles with owners of unique cars.  She tells the judge that these are not business trips but rather vaction and that since I have all this money to go on trips she should get more support.  My employer has told the court they are for business and the judge just over looks it but its getting to be a pain.

She subscribes to the publication, searches the internet for my articles and visits the company website to see what am doing.  Is this a case that even after three years of being finished she can't let go (I have remarried and have a new child on the way... my ex and I have two boys that she does what she can to limit visitation and communication) or what.  

How can I stop her from stalking me online?

Bry