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I know a lot about the law but, I would like to know what you all would sugest for the following situation.

I recently became devorced for the second time, no children, I gladly gaave up on the house because I simply did not want to stay in the area.  She absolutly did not want to get devorced however she kind of forced the issue when she filed a police report stating that I said "I'm going to set you striaght bitch and show you who's in charge" and stating that I threw my son across the Mc'Donalds play place area.  All of which was false and the latter documented via CCTV to be false.  Not being satisfied with that she chose to then tell the CPS that I was an abusive monster, beat the children (I have two), and had in appropriate material on the computer (Child Porn).  After having my life turned upside down for a while (4 months) the CPS is finally got off of my case.
All ultimatly proven to be false.

What do I do now, she still hasn't stopped.  I don't want to go to west texas to confront her in court, I reasonbly fear for my ability to return, they (Her family) has stated that they would make me pay for devorcing her dearly whether they have to kill me, find a way to send me to jail, or something else.  The prosicuter up ther refuses to file charges of false reporting, and for me to file cival tort would take a personal appearance.

As to the classes interfering with the visitation, you could either go back to ADR (Arbitration), or court under the grounds that the mother was bad-faith bargaining.  This is allowed under ADR rules.  Also don't use her lawyer to do ADR use a court recognized Arbitrator that is un affilated with her / her lawyer.  Not to mention that if one of you go to the classes and the other does not, she could use it in court as a material reason to bring suit in a change of custody.

Things that I would do:

1)  Attend all classes possable, reschedule life but not the visitations.
2)  If it's a one can go, but the other can not take turns in who's not going.
3)  Dont' take advice from HER lawyer, find your own councel, or read the law yourself (//www.state.tx.us poke around and you will find it.  As well as other law materials so you know what can and can not be used in court).

4) KNOW THE LAW.  I did my own divorce, and got what I wanted out of the procedings, simply because I knew the law and how to construct leagal briefings in the state of Texas (I live in South Texas)  If you read the family law for Texas, Texas Rules of Evidence, and Cival Procedure, you will learn a lot about what the lawyer can, and can not ask for.

5)  Yes the court is probably biased against fathers in general as are most courts.  I would however structure arguments around the fact that it was an isolated incident, you are BOTH going to anger management, and parenting classes, and that if you can go to your particular faith's ministerial staff and go to counseling.  Preferably with someone who is both a licensed minister, and counseler.  Why is that? It is because that in adition to the reletivly unavailablity of counseling records, not absoulutly unobtainable, but hard, you get the shielding of Paster-Parishiner protection from discovery.

NO I AM NOT A LAWYER, BUT I HAVE READ A LOT OF LEGAL CODE, PROCEDURES, ADMINISTRATIVE CODE, ETC.

I usually settle my own stuff in court because I have read the law, and comprehend it.  I sugest everyone to do likewise.

>Go to http://www.fathershelphotline.com/ His number is also
>on the website and he is helping us also


This seems to be some sort of scam site, and if it isn't it seems to fit the pattern of one.

The last I read it stated in that direction, Issued via AZ in 1999.

Find another lawyer, you can usually service a person at work, as opposed to the address.  If you use the inter state child support agreament between states (I forgot the name but its acronym sounds like UISFA), you would file in Illinois, and she would have a hearing inf Florida.  Under those guidelines the Visitation is set up in the state the child resides in, and the child support is set by the state the obligator resides in.

The only valid reason I can think of for a lawyer to be reluctant to file a child support change would be locating the parent.  However most state have as I said a provision for servicing at their place of employment, and if they fail to be served there sen it to their last reported address to the court.  After that you can citation by publication, both locally, and wher she is assumed to live/work.  It's just more leg work.

As to the double standard I feal your pain.  As a man if I was 12K behind on the child support I would have an inmate number, my X wife does not, nor will this state (Texas), or the state I came from (INdiana) persue her for some reason.  Indiana I can understand, they never do, but Texas seams to have a jones for going after late child support.  They have a system put into place that automaticly suspends profecional licensing, and other nastieness when you are late > 1k, and especially 5K

I have since all this given up, and moved to texas, county in question for IN was Howard County.

How in the world do I get a child away from mom when I get the respnce to where she lives with a REGISTERED SEX OFFENDER of "Well the have to live somewhere"?

I got bared from the premices (CPS) because I, mabey a bit to loudly, responded with "How bout he lives with you and your kids!"

He being a registered sex offender (Offence was child rape no less, That took awhile to get it out of they court records) I really have to wonder WTF!

On top of all this he has been arrested / pending prosicution for no less than 10 fellonies (Last count about one month ago).

WTF I can't get custody!  Why because I'm not a perverted sex fiend who can't stay out of jail?  Also she has been CONVICTED of child neglect X2!

I gave up, and just resigned to the fact that Indiana blows.  Especially when the judge for the area in question in openly a lesbian and anti male.  Before anyone gripes me about lesbian issues, I don't care that she is lesbian, just that she soap boxes against males, fathers, and anyother issue wher a male might get ahead.

However she keeps getting elected, and thus I have no hope.  When I last tried I tried to get a change of venue to the next closest county of jursdiction.  Denied!  Apealed, Denied!  Grounds for the change of venue included a statistical study performed by college students majoring in statistical mathmatics as a research paper, about the same judge.