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On August 26th, the date of this original message that I posted to the group, I also sent an email to my former wife stating that I wanted to open up a dialogue about ways that we could mutually agree upon to increase my time with my children after my relocation.  My attorney had suggested that by writing this cordial email to her, it would "smoke her out" and cause her to realize that I was determined to enjoy more than 4 days a month with my children after I moved to their town.

That same night, I have recently come to discover, my former wife took one of my children, a 4 year old girl, in to social services and accused me of sexually molesting her.  It was the ultimately worst thing (or "smartest thing" ... from HER perspective) that she could do to try to thwart my relocation and increase of parental access to my children.

If any one can point me toward resources or forums that may deal with false accusations of sexual abuse I would appreciate it.

"You can file that she is not allowed to move more than 30 miles from her current address. We have that in our papers...."


How did you go about getting that filed?  Is it something you both agreed upon out of court and simply had notarized?  

My wife had an affair with our plumber and ran off with our 4 children.  One of the children turned out to be the plumber's biological daughter.  She took the children far away from me.  After a year of separation my wife filed for divorce.  

No court order for custody was ever made, but we did work out a basic custody agreement out of court. The agreement says we both have joint legal and physical custody.  My visitation time is listed as the standard every other weekend and 1 evening a week.  At the time this was the best I could get her to agree to.  I had to drive 12 hours round trip each visit to see my children, but I never missed a visit.

I repeatedly suggested moving to the town my kids lived in so I could resume a more "normal" relationship with them but she promised to move if I came closer.  My attorney advised that the best thing I could do would be to get money for a court fight (if it came to that) and then move into her town and start a custody suit.

I moved across the country for a year when a good paying job opportunity came along.  I now have ample funds saved for a custody fight.  I also remarried during this time.  While away for a year I have flown back to visit my children every single month and have called them daily.  I flew them out for a summer visit with me.

I am now prepared to move to the town where my children live and demand more time with my children.  I have been dedicated and involved from the very beginning.  My ex wife knows I am moving back and has now indicated plans to move again shortly after I get there.

I'm not trying to take the children away from their mother... just ensure that I get 50% visitation and some way of keeping her from running off with my children again.

If you were me, what would you do?

My wife had an affair with our plumber and ran off with our 4 children.  One of the children turned out to be the plumber's biological daughter.  She took the children far away from me.  After a year of separation my wife filed for divorce.  

No court order for custody was ever made, but we did work out a basic custody agreement out of court. The agreement says we both have joint legal and physical custody.  My visitation time is listed as the standard every other weekend and 1 evening a week.  At the time this was the best I could get her to agree to.  I had to drive 12 hours round trip each visit to see my children, but I never missed a visit.

I repeatedly suggested moving to the town my kids lived in so I could resume a more "normal" relationship with them but she promised to move if I came closer.  My attorney advised that the best thing I could do would be to get money for a court fight (if it came to that) and then move into her town and start a custody suit.

I moved across the country for a year when a good paying job opportunity came along.  I now have ample funds saved for a custody fight.  I also remarried during this time.  While away for a year I have flown back to visit my children every single month and have called them daily.  I flew them out for a summer visit with me.

I am now prepared to move to the town where my children live and demand more time with my children.  I have been dedicated and involved from the very beginning.  My ex wife knows I am moving back and has now indicated plans to move again shortly after I get there.

I'm not trying to take the children away from their mother... just ensure that I get 50% visitation and some way of keeping her from running off with my children again.

If you were me, what would you do?