Hi,
I am so very torn in two different directions. My situation is that I'm divorcing my 2 year old daughter's father for many reasons including the fact that he doesn't respect me, drinks unresponsibly and doesn't generally share my outlook on life.
I am a staff member at Mount Calvary Lutheran Church in Minnesota and have over 20 people that would passionately fight for me should I want to full custody of Makenna.
However, her dad wants to share parenting time with me 50/50. I want him to be a part of her life - I think its important - and I don't ever want her to feel like she shouldn't love her father, but in light of the fact that he doesn't listen to me or take me seriously, I don't feel like I can trust him to take gentle and thoughtful care of her. He means well, but follow through isn't his specialty.
For example, I found out (through Makenna) that there was a man staying at Joe's house - possibly to be a roommate (he can't afford teh mortgage without me). I understand that he needs a roommate, but he was planning on letting the roomate move into makenna's room and having her share a bedroom with her father. He thinks this is appropriate. I do not... especially in light of the fact that he is sexually active and planning on having guests. And even though he swears he won't while makenna's at home, the idea of her sleeping in his/their bedroom disturbs me. Especially when she has her own room at my house.
I don't want to be rediculously traditional for the sake of being traditional, I want to do what's best for her ~ I no longer trust him and I don't know what to do!
Looking for what's best,
Annette Harstad
I am so very torn in two different directions. My situation is that I'm divorcing my 2 year old daughter's father for many reasons including the fact that he doesn't respect me, drinks unresponsibly and doesn't generally share my outlook on life.
I am a staff member at Mount Calvary Lutheran Church in Minnesota and have over 20 people that would passionately fight for me should I want to full custody of Makenna.
However, her dad wants to share parenting time with me 50/50. I want him to be a part of her life - I think its important - and I don't ever want her to feel like she shouldn't love her father, but in light of the fact that he doesn't listen to me or take me seriously, I don't feel like I can trust him to take gentle and thoughtful care of her. He means well, but follow through isn't his specialty.
For example, I found out (through Makenna) that there was a man staying at Joe's house - possibly to be a roommate (he can't afford teh mortgage without me). I understand that he needs a roommate, but he was planning on letting the roomate move into makenna's room and having her share a bedroom with her father. He thinks this is appropriate. I do not... especially in light of the fact that he is sexually active and planning on having guests. And even though he swears he won't while makenna's at home, the idea of her sleeping in his/their bedroom disturbs me. Especially when she has her own room at my house.
I don't want to be rediculously traditional for the sake of being traditional, I want to do what's best for her ~ I no longer trust him and I don't know what to do!
Looking for what's best,
Annette Harstad