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I feel for you my ex is a saint compared to yours.  I started paying support as soon as I moved out don't know if that was the right thing to do or not.  Do you have a lawyer if so what does he say.  I don't any faith in lawyers.  its all formality.  mine did nothing for me he thought he did wonderful with the visitation he got me, but that was never the problem my ex loves when I have them.  I know this is hard for you but some day your son with figure out what your ex is doing and he will resent her for it.  Have you ever checked the website ANCPR.  You can purchase information about divorce and your legal rights.  Its full of information including domestic violence issues.  good luck

thanks for your coment, yes you are right, of course its my kids, but I think, although not sure my ex's income has increased.  since the divorce she has moved 4 or 5 times last time she purchased a home, has had 4 or 5 vehicles.  Me had to file bankrupcy, car had to go bank to the bank, just now got another car after 2 years and its a strech to make payments.  but yes my kids are more important, but it just gets to ya after awhile.  I read all the time how the court rules in the best interest of the kids.  Wouldn't the fact that the kids are with me half the time for the last few years be in their best interest?

my situtation is a little different than most non-costodial parents, the ordered visitation is not followed, but its in favor of me.  the original order was everyother weekend and one night a week.  but for the last 2 to 3 years its been every other week-end and three nights (that includes friday) to make a long story short I have them 1/2 the time the ex does. But I still pay the same amount for child support.  I really can't afford a lawyer.  I thought about seeing one just for the consoltation.  I have been told that the ex will probably just want to return to the original order.  When I found out how much I would have to pay for cs I told my lawyer I would not be able to live on my own, he told me that most men find another women to help support them.  Well I had to move in with my parents and they help quiet abit.  I couldn't afford to buy diapers baby food.  So my question is, what should I do, does anyone think my cs should be reduced?