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Custody was determined in Washington and she (former CP) still resides there. It is just frustrating, she has only seen him 2 times in the last 2 1/2 years and that was when we took him to her. It is approximately an 8 hour drive each way for us to go back for court dates, so that makes it very difficult. Thank you for your response.

Hello. My husband and I fought for years to get custody of his son. With the help of this website we were able to do so. Now I am back for a little more help. Since we gained custody over 3 years ago, we have moved to another state (we have been here about 3 years). We are looking to have a child support modification and would like to have the case handled here where we are living. (Case was determined in Washington and we now reside in Oregon). We honestly do not have the money to hire an attorney as we are still paying off the last one :) !! So I am hoping someone here has some helpful information on getting a change of venue. Thank you!!

We fought her for custody from 1995-1998 and she was awarded custody. We had visitation 3 weekends a month. Over the years it got the the point where even though the papers said 3 weekends a month she was letting us have him 3-5 days a week. Finally in 2002 she decided she was going to move to our old hometown which was 90 miles away to live with her boyfriend (which we had found out was a drug addict), we told her abosulutely not, we would fight her. So she literally gave him to us and moved. We waited a few months and my husband got a job offer 3 hours away (5 hours from her) so we moved and brought him with us. She decided a few months into it that she wanted him back (we were stupid and did not get the change of custody in writing), so she picked him up for Christmas vacation and never returned him. She enrolled him in school and basically laughed at us. So it was substantial enough for a modification. We fought her tooth and nail. I used this site to get all the information I could. I got my stepsons medical records, school records, counseling records, I ran criminal background checks on her and the people she had living with her. We stayed in contact with his school and all of his teachers. He went from having a 3.8 with us to a 1.7 gpa with her, he had 12 detentions in 2 months with her (never had any with us). Finally a week before our court date, she called me and told me she gave up, she would give us custody. The rest is history. Right now she never calls him (she texts him occasionally) and has seen him 2 times in over 2 years. It makes me so angry. We sacrificed so much so we could see him on our 3 weekends a month (at times that meant driving 10 hours roundtrip on Friday and 10 hours roundtrip on Sunday), but we did it because we love him. She doesn't even call. She thinks she is doing us a favor paying her little bit of child support. It doesn't even cover a quarter of his basic living costs and that doesn't include any of the cost of raising a teenager these days (sports, dances, annuals, fun, etc).

Hello. My husband and I fought for years to get custody of his son. With the help of this website we were able to do so. Now I am back for a little more help. Since we gained custody over 3 years ago, we have moved to another state (we have been here about 3 years). We are looking to have a child support modification and would like to have the case handled here where we are living. (Case was determined in Washington and we now reside in Oregon). We honestly do not have the money to hire an attorney as we are still paying off the last one :) !! So I am hoping someone here has some helpful information on getting a change of venue. Thank you!!