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Understood, however, she has always said she would not persue CS all these years but seems to hold it as her ace in the hole.  The other problem is required mediation before a filing which she has avoided.  Do I proceed and further give her cause to continue with the alienation she is now promoting with our daughter or just go for it and let the fall-out take place?  Daughter is turning 14 today.

....that being said, how do I get my ex-wife to come to terms with my admitted arrearage and agree to new terms because of my disability.
She seems afraid to go to court since she might have to pay me yet she will not sign her own agreement that she drew up and agreed upon which I have agreed to as well. Yes, she has other issues but what options do I have to encourage her to sign without being accused of stressing her out or harassment?

I believe I have done my share of bashing and maybe it has affected my now 14 year old daughter......albeit the truth, it still may have had a damaging effect.

After reading some of the Google articles, as suggested, I find I need to do some work.

That being said, I gave up the last weekend for my daughter to have a birthday party at her mothers and this weekend was our first together in three weeks.....guess what....we got into a disagreement on her health being she has a cold and I told her she should stay home and not go to the movies at night with her friends.  She calls her mom and her mom tells her she doesn't have to stay with me and she will pick her up and of course the situation escalated into her leaving and her mom picking her up. [ forget calling the police to enforce a court ordered agreement we had...just leads to more alienation and hate]

The ex seems to have won and now my daughter has such distain for me that I have become enammered to even know how to make things okay.  The mother is so permissive and without remorse in anything she does irrespective of the consequences that may befall our daughter, as long as it is counter to my wishes, she will do it and let our daughter know it is okay to do so.

Being the best person I can be is not enought when you are dealing with pathelogical liars and sociopathic personalities.

I am without hope at this point after thinking my little girl would never turn on her father, how evil can her mother and why?

All very helpful, thank you.

Any thoughts regarding parental alienation and what can be done to counter such behavior when the CP committs such against the NCP and what indicators are there to know the damage that is being done to the child?