My brother (residing in the state of Florida) and his ex had a baby girl on Nov. 20 and broke off the relationship shortly thereafter. Now my brother lives at home with my mother and his ex lives with her parents as well. She doesn't work, so her parents and my brother are the ones supporting the child. Her parents hate my brother and our family and they will stop at nothing to keep him out of his daughter's life. They even went so far as to convince their daughter (the ex) to go down to the clerk's office and change the baby's last name on the birth certificate and list the father as unknown. One night my brother had the baby for a sleepover at his house and she demanded my brother bring the baby back at 5:30 am the next morning. When my brother tried to explain to her that her request was ridiculous and unreasonable, she got angry and called the cops. She told the cops my brother was holding her baby against her will. The cops did not remove the baby from my brother's home. After that, he filed all the necessary legal papers for 50/50 custody and that made her and her parents really mad. They got a lawyer of their own and are fighting for 100% custody with supervised visitations for my brother. They are claiming he was verbally abusive to the ex and that he hit her in the past (which is completely untrue). Now she is withholding the baby from him - won't even let him see her at all. She told him if he wants to see "HER baby" he must contact her lawyer. She cut off her phone so he has no way of contacting her directly except to call her parents house and of course they rarely put her on the phone. She is also claiming that our family is nasty to her and makes her feel uncomfortable, so she doesn't want us around the baby. The truth is we have never been anything but respectful to this girl, despite all the terrible things she has done to my brother and our family. My brother has given her 3 or 4 checks for child support thus far and she has yet to cash the checks. She doesn't change or feed the baby - her mother and her sister and the primary caretakers right now. We are also concerned because her brother is a drug dealer living in the same household and her father has a history of abuse (though that may be hard to prove since I'm sure she'll never admit she said that). All my brother wants is to be a father to his daughter. Unfortunately, because this girl and her family are so angry (at the fact that my brother would not "do the right thing" by marrying her) they are pushing him away from his daughter.
I am so worried for my brother - I know how the system works and it always seems to be in favor of the mother (my father went through a horrible, decade-long custody battle with my own mother and she won time and time again despite being a neglectful mother and my father being a good and loving father). This is really killing my family. We need help!
I am so worried for my brother - I know how the system works and it always seems to be in favor of the mother (my father went through a horrible, decade-long custody battle with my own mother and she won time and time again despite being a neglectful mother and my father being a good and loving father). This is really killing my family. We need help!