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Congratulation form the bottom of my heart. Enjoy your wonder full life with them.

I got my child back. Every allegation made by mother is dismissed and i have 50 percent custody and no restrictions on anything and first rights of refusal.

Lots of reading and perseverance.

You need a lawyer, no too ways about it. If you cant afford it sell everything you have to get one. You and your daughter both need it.

Prove your involvement with your child to the court. If you have to spend time at the the place you abhor, do it. You are doing it for for your child.

Take pride in your power. The baby knows smell and touch with a little sound. Try to spend as much times with your child, even if it is in uncomfortable surroundings. Ignore every thing and focus on your child, you will find the prettiest oasis in your child's eyes.

As far as breast feeding is concerned, she can always pump it and bottle it for you.

DONT GET ANGRY AND THROW A TANTRUM, please.

Let me start by saying how sorry I am at what you are going through. These situations area always very hard and complicated. Having gone through a lot of that myself and enduring it and getting custody of my child.

I would suggest you protect your finances and be fair. As far as your children are concerned, concentrate more on accumulating proof about your relationship with your children and how much of an asset you are and what a positive influence you bring to the table.

Do not get angry and say ANYTHING derogatory or threatening no matter how much you get baited. You will be amazed how quickly the lies fall apart in court with no proof. Remember if the charge can be summed up to be 100, you cant even afford to give 5. By that i mean no tantrums so she can use for a TRO Figure out your emotional control, you have it in you just find it.

Dont lose heart and hang in there for you children and try to make the best soup you can with chicken poop.

Please dont lose hope or patience. Dont get mad, and please stay focused. Your goal right now is not to give any ammo to the the ex or the courts.

Just keep doing your part and you will get her.

It was a dark hole with no foot holes anywhere. It took almost 2 years to build a flashlight and crawl my way out. I am not out but i can see the sunlight. I wanted all fathers to know this and assure them perseverance pays at the end and there is justice however long it might take. The reward is to see my daughter safe and happy.

My advice:

don't lose your temper and stay focused. you will get your chance but you have to keep inching up. Dont expect to get it all in one go. Your rights are established one sliver at a time.

Stay focused on on whats best for your child. Save money it will cost you and remember you are in a fight for her life. This is more important than anything else you have ever done or will ever do.

Write yourself notes reminding yourself how important you are to her. Try to ignore all the negative the mother does.

I am a single father and have got my 4 year old daughter 3 days a week and first rights of refusal. I am in mediation now to change primary custody. I got this without saying anything negative about the mother by just staying cool, and letting mother make an ass of herself and proving her lies.

At 4 my daughter has realized not to believe her mother and the courts have confirmed she lied.