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Thank you.  I've canceled some accounts and others have been canceled for me.  I'm looking at bankruptcy b/c I cannot pay the bills.  I've paid thousands already, but honestly, I just can't keep up any more.  Now, I have to pay her support and child support, so there goes another grand out of my paycheck, so even if I want to, I can't pay.

I do document and have all my receipts, so do you think this will all come out in the divorce proceeding?  I don't know jack about the way this flows, so any help will be appreciated.

Does the divorce proceeding work like a trial?  Where evidence comes out and stuff and different points are brought to the table?

I'm trying to research as much as I can, but it's hard to know what to do when there's no "Divorce for Dummies" book... or maybe there is.

Angel

Sorry, no equity in the home, so that's out [bankruptcy court is more liek it].  I was already ordered to pay her alimony b/c two weeks after she filed for the divorce, she quit one job and took a disability leave from the other, so when we went in front of the judge, she was awarded CS and spousal support b/c she didn't make enough to make ends meet.

I don't make enough to make ends meet either, but the judge ordered that "I" pay anyway.  I was ordered to pay less than what she asked for, so I guess I should be 'grateful' huh?  What a system.

Anyway, my question is... [she was ordered to go back to work... she couldn't prove her disability, so she has to work now].  When it comes back that she makes more money than what she said she makes, would the spousal support decrease or be eliminated?

I won't lie on here... I don't care what my CS payment is, I'll give my DD anything...  but just the thought of giving this sociopath MY hard earned money as 'spousal suport' makes my blood boil.  

Another thing, what about my house?  Can I remove her name from it?  She's on the deed, but doesn't contribute a dime towards the bills of the house nor has she ever paid any of the mortgage.  I always took care of that.

Thanks for your reply...
Angel

Hello.

I am new and recently going through a divorce.  I have no idea how the divorce process goes, so someone please help me through the process because it isn't going well.  I have tons of questions.

My Xwife spent so much money on my credit cards as an authorized user that it forced me to file BK.  Please save all the "you stupid idiot" comments, trust me, I know how dumb I was, but I 'blindly' trusted the woman, but the damage is done.

She moved out of the house, took our daughter with her and filed for divorce so she wouldn't have to pay.  She is asking for spousal support, child support, daycare costs and attorney fees.  Nice, huh?

The reason for the divorce is her creation of this debt, which I am forced to pay simply b/c "I" authorized her.  I have tried everything to get help on making HER responsible for HER doing b/c I too have my own bills to pay, plus I have all the marital home expenses to deal with and I have gotten no where.

We had our first hearing where the judge ordered that I pay her support, child support, and half of day care costs.  I don't know how the hell I'm going to cover my mortgage AND utilities now.  Is it right for her to drive around in a leased car and have a fully furnished apartment and claim she can't support herself and I have to?  No one asked her to leave.  She volunteered!

I don't know where to start asking questions, but is the judge's order final?  My attorney says it's temporary, but still.  I can't believe he rewarded this woman w/o even asking her one single question about the debt SHE created.  It was ALL her!  I don't mind the child support b/c I would never deny my daughter of anything, but to give HER money?  SHE should be paying ME for the expenses of the home which she also owns AND for the debt SHE created!!!!

Some of my friends say that 'everything' will come out during the divorce?  Is this so?  Would she be asked what she did with so much money?  She was working two jobs while charging EVERYTHING...even her nail salon... on MY cards!  So, what did she do with all this money?

We have to go to 'parenting mediation' now b/c I want custody of my daughter.  [Another post]  After learning what type of sociopath she is, I'm afraid she is unstable and my daughter is so thin now that I am taking her to the doctor to find out if she's anemic.  The minute my daughter was taken away from my care, she has gotten thinner and is very sad.  She's 5 yrs old and right now, I don't know who's taking care of her.  X was ordered by judge to enroll her in a day care, and she hasn't.  I don't know what to do.  I've never gone through this and don't know much of anything at this point.

Any feed back will be appreciated.  Thank you.

Angel