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Would like to email calendar (only one month, not entire time tracker) to ex.   Can't seem to save that "picture" of calendar month as file for email, forced to save the entire time tracker.  Any help would be most appreciated.  Thx

Decent Dad:

Great idea/story...."Mommy' permits BOTH my 4 and 6 yr. old boys to sleep worth her and I have been having a helluva time breaking the 4 yr. old (6 yr. old has always stayed in his bed at Daddy's house)

Will put it into action this week at Daddy's house!

Cheers,

thank you (nm)

Thanks for the advice.  I have asked her before if she would be open to discussing this matter with a child psychologist and she refused-since she doesn't see it as a issue.

I could meet with the child psychologist alone to get her opinion.  I guess that's not as optimal as having both of us participating.  Depending on the level of concern (if any) I could then choose to pursue in court.

Question:

  If the child psychologist expresses concern, are these medical professionals usually comfortable documenting in a format(letter?) that I can reference in court?  I'm trying to avoid depositions, 3rd party "live" testimony, etc. in what would be a fairly simple hearing.

Hello Soc,

San Diego County.  50/50 Shared parenting and Custody, well above average on the successful co-parenting scale (conflict non-existent, parenting styles consistent)

We have two boys, ages 6 and 8.  To this day they sleep in Mom's bed every night they are with her and have done so since they were born.  I have asked Mom to finally "cut the cord" and have them sleep in their own beds at her house but to no avail.  She does not see it as a big deal.  Perhaps it isn't but my instinct tells me this isn't healthy for them.

Question:  Is this an example of an area judges typically WON'T get involved and refuse to intercede based on your experience?  Obviously without a court's help I can't change this arrangement in Mom's house.

Thanks for your insight.

Orange County, CA

What is the process for requesting court transcripts from a hearing two years ago?  Do I have to go thru my atty or can I request directly from the court?

thanks

Hello Socrates,

Orange County, CA


If either party request a modification of child support (on basis that relative incomes have significantly changed since court order of 3 yrs ago), how far back does the court look to determine income basis?  i.e., just last year's W'2's or average of past 3 years or ?

thank you.

Dear Soc:

Mom and I were ordered to utilize same babysitter for after school care at our respective homes, we both work full time, share 50/50 custody and  have a very good co-parenting relationship.  In fact, this is the only issue we have had any disagreement in the past 3 yrs.

Mom has given the babysitter a "guaranteed 25 hours" regardless of actual hours worked (typical week is about 18 hours).  

Exact text of court order follows:

"That the cost of the childcare service utilized by Petitioner (Mom) during her share time shall be borne equally between Respondent and Petitioner.
 
That the cost of the childcare service utilized by Respondent (Dad) during his share time shall be borne equally between Respondent and Petitioner.
 
That the balance of the cost of the childcare service shall be borne by Petitioner (Mom)."

Question:  How would you interpet this?  For example, if babysitter works 6 hours/wk for Dad, 10 hours/wk for Mom, what is our respective financial responsibilities....given actual hours worked and the 25 hour guarantee?  The first two sentences of the court order seem fairly self-explanatory but the last sentence along with our "guarantee" have both of us scratching our heads...

Thank you.

Thanks for the response.

  Paystubs and prior 3 yrs. of income taxes were provided along with current I&E.  All of that info was used to determine CS by the attys and judge

If opposing counsel is still "searching" for income, I could understand bank statements but how what do credit card statements reveal about income?

Hello Soc,

I was recently given 50/50 physical custody (up from 30/70) at a hearing this week.  Attorneys agreed before going before the judge to accept California FCS mediator's recommendation for 50/50 (and guideline support) and communicated such to the judge during the hearing.  No open issues at conclusion of the hearing.

Two days before the hearing,  opposing counsel sent request for  "Production of Documents" which is the usual bank statements, credit card statements, etc., all financials for past 2 yrs.    Responses due back Aug. 23

Questions:

(1) Given all was agreed to at the hearing with judge, do I still need to spend a w/e making requested copies of all this material for opposing counsel?  

(2) One would have thought opposing counsel would have requested this in sufficient time BEFORE the hearing to present their best case to the judge?

(3) I was the one that initiated the court action for 50/50 but how does one know when it's "over" if hearing doesn't end it?

Thx