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Sadly I think they both do. There's the major problem. Ex and Sm refuse to believe that son has any disability.

I'm a SM too and it curls my skin to think that some SM act this way to children.

Dad is there for the most part. When he goes out of town for business my son will go to either the grandparents, cousins or some of my family members house that live in the state.


The NW has now sent me emails and text messages telling me the bad habits that my son has. I know he has hygeine issues but what autistic child doesn't. Not sure what to do now that she's called me names and such. I just don't want my son in that kind of environment.

Thanks so much.

Yes, it probably was too much time. He's the only child at my house but there are 3 other children (8, 4 and 1) at his dad's house.

I think the 1-2weeks at a time might work better. I hadn't thought about that.

Let me begin with some background information.

I have sole custody of my 10year old son. He is HF autistic. The custody order for his dad and I states that the NCP should receive "a reasonable amount" of visitation rights. My son has been visiting his father out of state for about 5 years. I have been paying for the transportation for about 4 of the 5 years. The first year we spilt the cost of the one trip.

My son just retrurned from a 4week visit with his dad. The visit wasn't very good and he returned a week early. The dad's wife has made it clear she does not want my son there or does she want anything to do with him. My son states that he doesn't want to go back to visit ever again.

Here's my question: Since my visitation does not state the exact amount of time the dad gets to visit, do I have to send my son anyway? Also, the order states that the father must pay for all transportation for visit.

Please help. I really don't want my son to go back but I also want him to have a relationship with his dad.